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Giving Up My Ways

I wanted to share with you five ways in which I try to implement a healthy lifestyle. I don’t mean just by eating healthily or to workout. These things are a given for any healthy lifestyle, but I wanted to cover the other things that I find help me stay well when I am feeling or not feeling my best.

So, here they are:

One: Giving Up Bad Habits
Implementing a healthy lifestyle is to give up your bad habits so that you can make way for good ones. We all know what our bad habits. We have habits or things that we do in our life that doesn’t make us feel good. Some of it you are aware of and others you may not have a clue of it. However, you know very well that some things in your life don’t make you feel well or hold you back. Whether that’s a person, a job, your diet, not working out, debt, not getting enough sleep are all things that you don’t want to be incorporated into your life.

You can write all the things that you want to let go of so you can create space for those new habits. An example could be if you go to bed too late, maybe set the alarm to go to bed earlier. The goal is to take something negative and create a positive habit out of it.

It is suggested that it takes 21 days to create a habit, so if you are starting a newer practice, make sure that you’re keeping track. You can use a marker and with each day you that achieve it. You mark it. If you don’t, you start again. Eventually, that new habit will be ingrained into your mind and body.

You always have to be realistic about your new habit changes. You will get overwhelmed if you do too many at the same time. I would recommend looking at your harmful habit list and seeing if any, can be organized together.

Once they are organized, you can see how they are related and create a habit system and complete one habit that will help lead to the next bad habit to conquer. For instance, going to bed late and getting up late in the morning. Perhaps work on going to bed early first. Once that healthy habit has been established, the next logistical practice to create would be to get up earlier.

If you set up too much too soon, you’re going to end up stumbling, failing, and then end up quitting. Small changes in your daily routine will end up creating more prodigious healthy habits in the long run. You’re not going to be seeing instant results. You are looking to change your lifestyle, and you still want to live your life, you need to have the new habit feel natural in the long run.

Two: Mental Check-ins
When you check-in on your mental state, you are checking in with your body, mind, and space. Mostly, you are mindful. Your mindfulness is a huge component of starting a healthy lifestyle. You cannot start a healthy lifestyle if you are not mentally into it. You have to examine where you are right now.

You have to look at yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically within your area. When you check-in mentally, try to accept where you are, and where it’s at right now. When dwelling on the past or looking too much into the future, you are taking in a negative mindset. You are blocking your potential to create and implement a healthier lifestyle.

Mindfulness, at the beginning of your healthy lifestyle, is going to be detrimental to the success of it. Our mind is the reflection of what we see externally, but a massive part of our mindset stems from the internal representation that we see our inner self. You can create mindfulness through a multitude of different exercises, journaling, listening to music, taking a nature walk, practice gratitude, and positive self-talk. The positive narratives help set positive intentions for your day that can help in your mindfulness journey.

Three: 10,000 Steps
Focus on walking. I aim for about 10,000 steps in a day. I have been implementing walking into my life. I’ve been using my phone, but you can also estimate that 2 hours of walking in a day is about 10,000 steps. This doesn’t mean straight walking or even a long distance walk. It can be cleaning your home, parking at the back of a parking lot, walking to work, or going to the bathroom, or even taking the stairs, every step counts. So, two hours in your day of walking isn’t a lot. You can do little things to reach your 10,000 step goal.

You’ll be amazed how much walking you can incorporate into your daily routine. When you have a body stationary, it creates a loss of connection to the world and can increase the likelihood of depression. There is so much to benefit from moving your body. It creates flow not only with your organs but with your brain and your positive well-being.

Four: Clean-up Before Bed
I find by putting things away and creating a clean environment. I tend to have a positive morning. No one likes to wake up to a messy room. You may feel slow and unmotivated. In the morning, you may worry about the dishes in the sink or decide not to eat a healthy breakfast because there is no room to cook. It’s not the best way to start the day.

I like to do my daily prays and reflections at night. I can reflect on my day create stillness in my mind while I am tidying the end of the day. It’s an excellent way to clean up my mental trash before I go to bed. This practice helps my mind feel refreshed in the morning.

Five: Surround Yourself with Positivity
We all do this. We are in a funk, so we gravitate to the negativity that surrounds us. I know I have a hard time listening to how great someone has when I am suffering. However, this is a perfect time to listen to the positive. Your brain with a click and a switch, and you will stop resisting the negative pushback.

What I do is put on a playlist that makes me happy, meditate as I am cleaning, journalling for five minutes, sitting in a crowded cafe and listening to other laughter or even watching an adorable cat video could help me see a little bit more positivity in your life. Once you have that moment of realizing you are not quite in the funk, please do something to extend yourself to a better place, like talking to a good friend or writing an email to a coworker or family member to let them know they matter. I am surprised how this action can change my whole outcome for the day.

Implementing wellness in your mind every single day helps you create a positive space in every aspect of your life. Wellness is emotional, spiritual, and physical. Make sure that you’re doing things every day to create wellness and better behaviors.

You are all you have, so make the most of today.

I hope you found this piece to be helpful. If you have any suggestions or ideas, I would love to hear from you.

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Resolution 2019 – February Update

Now that January is over, I thought it would be best to see if I am still making progress with my many resolutions. I know I have a lot, but I have a lot to change. I think going forward, I may write a post to keep me accountable for the list. So, here we go:

Check-in for Goals for 2019:

Four Months of No Spend in 2019
Not yet, but January I saw a dramatic decrease in my spending. Unfortunately, I had some personal issues at the end of the month that cause me to spend what I saved. I guess I am grateful for the savings as I would not have it otherwise.

February will probably be more of mindful spending and consuming. I am just asking myself those child-like questions, “Do you really need it? Can it wait? Why do you need it.”

Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
This actually happened because I sent him my list. I think I was trapped in doing things rather than thinking of actions and I was a complete mess in December. I was very closed off and was dealing with mental health issues. He made it a point to take, and from that, we were able to solve and restart some plans that became wayward in my mind.

Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
I know this sound like a silly goal, but I literally worked like every day last year. Much like spending time with everyone else, I didn’t feel complete and insecure enough to show her myself.

So, the beginning of the year was rough because I really didn’t have the time. I took off in December to deal with issues.

However, because I can set my hours and she had a HORRIBLE teacher this year. We decided to pull her from school and home school her. It is a scary thing to be in charge of your kid’s lessons, but last week was magical. She wanted to hang on me and talk to me. We were bonding, it was a very positive experience.

No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
Yes, I slipped a couple of times, but for the most part, I been making this resolution. It feels great to take a break from the cyber life that we all create.

I actually didn’t spend much time on any social media. I didn’t have time, because I wanted to focus on these resolutions and my challenges. I am posting more on Instagram, but the pictures are always real. I much rather have two followers on IG than 2,000,000 followers and be pressured to live an artificial life.

No phone for 1 hour in the morning
Not so good at the moment. I started strong but my work is weird, and I get calls and text as soon as I wake up. I have been good at not going on social media for at least an hour, but the no phone rule is pretty tricky for me to do every day. I am still trying tactics to get at least a month to no phone in the morning.

Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12am
This has been the most comfortable resolution. Now, I get tired at 11pm!!!! I have a feeling no social media before bed is helping this goal. I also have set two timers. One at 10:30PM to remind me to get ready and one at 11PM to get ready for sleep. It’s been amazing, and I am really proud of myself with this goal.

Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
I started out loud, but then life happens. I haven’t touched this for at least ten days. I am not taking it as a bad thing because the pages are not going anywhere. I think I am going to change it to write three sentences a day. It was my old rule, and it seems to work well as a prompt. I will let you know how it goes in February.

Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
With arduous work and support, I have paid $1500 this month 🙂

Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
This is actually a lot easier when there is no social media presence. You are kind of forced to talk to each other. It’s almost like the bad habits I was picking up came from my desire to be perfect like my friends and influencers. We talk to together. I love it.

Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
I have done this goal, and sometimes it is SO HARD to accomplish! I am not a social person. I don’t even know how to start a conversation. Luckily, the few people in my life are amazing and understand my limitation and for now are OK with texting and the occasional GIF.

Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance)
I have, but not really. January was a hectic month. In February, I am going to really work on my pet store. I need money, and that has to be my focus. I can’t keep putting it off because I am afraid of being a failure.

Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
I read articles, watch a video and listen to my other half. All have to give me really great advice.

Build a solid client list for Pet Care
It’s coming along, but I put a freeze on new clients this month. There is so much going on that I thought it would be better to love the clients I have and focus on my personal issues.

10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
Easy with a timer…I find myself going over the set timer sometimes.

Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
This is hard. I wrote a blog about how I really don’t have much. I mean I could delete emails. I really don’t know. I am still in the middle of the challenge, but instead, I think I might actually just consider it as getting rid of 460 items rather than a 30-day Challenge.

Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
I have done this, and yes, it has been difficult. I care about him and his wellbeing, and it is equally essential for my daughter’s well-being. She sees everything and absorbs everything. This has to work for her sake.

No clothes buying unless needed
I did not purchase but any clothes in January.

Fix my Teeth ASAP
Step one, completed and I am SO happy. I can eat! I have another appointment on the 9th as a follow-up.

So, this is just a simple post to let you know where I stand in my resolutions. How are you doing?

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Self-Love & Meditation: Improving Mental Health in Daily Routines

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Aristotle had articulated this excellent quote with only 15 words, for a long time of my life, I didn’t believe him.

I struggled for having good habits in my daily life because I wanted to have my own rules of being not of others. I tried to create my world to live, my kingdom to be queen to myself.

Skipping the self-fulfilling activities such as exercising, meditating, yoga and making gratitude lists—we may disadvantage ourselves from the vitality that these unusual pleasant activities give to my mind and body.

Why Create a Routine?
Creating a positive daily routine is both a self-investment and a way to do your best for the rest of the world. It also provides additional benefits, such as giving you structure, building forward-moving habits, and creating momentum that will carry you on the days when you feel like you don’t have the strength to love yourself.

Don’t be afraid to try new habits and see how they work for you. If they leave you feeling energized and inspired, keep doing them…if they don’t, keep trying new ones until you find ones that do.

Optimize Your Mind

Get positive: Start the day with a mantra. Positive thinking helps manage stress and even improves your health.

“Today is going to be the best day ever!”

I start every single day saying that simple sentence (out loud) as soon as I get out of bed. And yes, I even tell myself this on mornings that have followed nights that were too short or mornings that I wake up feeling like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.

Be proactive: Don’t check your email first!
When you wake up in the morning, do you immediately check your email or social media accounts? If so, you’re starting your day off in reactive mode instead of proactive.

Start your days focused on YOU, and you will be in a much better state-of-mind to help others and get more accomplished all day.

Be Mentally Prepare: Visualize your success
Jack Canfield, the co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, recommended that practice visualization 10 minutes a day to “harness the power of your subconscious mind.”

Just close your eyes and imagine yourself excelling and being the best you. Put yourself in situations where you shine, visualizing the best possible outcome.

Read a book
Reading can boost your intelligence, increase your brainpower. You may find it hard to find the time to read an entire book. You can just read only one chapter each day of a book of your choice.

Writing: A way to creativity
Spending time writing every day helps you become a better communicator, improves your ability to recall relevant information, and it also enhances your creativity. Write in a diary format, and you also have the added benefit of greater self-understanding.

Ways to Boost Your Body
Drink 9-13 cups of water a day
Exercise (MOVE!)

Even you can take a 10-20 minute walk. Do yoga, stretches, or dance
around your living room.
Get enough sleep: No less than 7 hours

Optimize your Spirit
Practice meditation: If the idea of “meditating” can be a turn-off, then think about it as spending some daily quiet time alone. Engaging in this daily practice has a lot of positive benefits. As a greater focus, better decision making and problem-solving skills improved memory, and an easier time managing hyperactivity or attention deficit disorder. Meditation also reduces stress, anxiety, and depression according to Harvard University studies, which are even more reasons to give it a try if you haven’t before.

Practice gratitude: Write what you’re thankful for in your life
If you woke up tomorrow and only had the things you were grateful for
Today, what would you have? Expressing gratitude at the end of the day for all of the blessings in your life, you do two things. First, you recognize that even though things may not be as you’d like, you are fortunate to have what you do. Second, the more blessings you are thankful for, the more you draw in or attract. It’s like they multiply.

Give to others
There is something extremely sense of satisfaction when you help those around you. It is not necessary to do huge acts of service/virtue. It can be even something as simple as opening the door for someone or giving a stranger (or loved one) a genuine compliment can make a significant impact on their day…and yours.

Once habits slowly start to take root into your daily life, you have the freedom to do so much more. You are not thinking of the small things but the greater picture. It’s important to find a routine that maximizes your inner strength and beauty. Sometimes there is a lot of trails and errors, but you have every moment of every day to try to pick yourself up and start again.

I hope you found this article helpful. Let me know if you have a habit that helps you and promotes self-love. Please comment below.

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A Simple Exercise in Gratitude

I am no stranger to anxiety and depression. I have suffered from it for most of my life. Nowadays, I am a little open-minded to the possibility that I can change my mood or at least the view of my day by doing a simple exercise.

It seems that in today’s world, being negative is sort of taking over. There seems to be more and more things that are not acceptable, and there are other things that are acceptable but entirely unattainable for the average person. So, I hope this practice can help you and your outlook.

This exercise is designed to help you think more positively and hopefully be able to help you deal with the negative things a little bit better. It sounds easy, but can be challenging for those stuck in a depressed or anxious state.

You just start by creating a gratitude list each day.

Each day, write down the things that you appreciate in life. You may start off great, but you’ll have a day when nothing seems excellent. That’s where your mind is going to kick in and will help you find the appreciation of the smaller things.

An example for me would be the love of my family, the support of my friends, having a home, and the ability to eat good food. In a few days, it may be harder, so I have to start to look at my current surroundings like, my dog under my foot as I type or this warm cup of coffee that tastes amazing. By consistently practicing this, it helps make me feel good and helps to set up my day a little bit better.

Now you might think that sounds weird, especially if you are currently anxious or depressed, but that’s kind of how it works. I really have started to appreciate the tiny little things. It gives me a moment to get out of my head or opens me up to get help.

It does help me to think more positively and to really start appreciating everything in my life. When you are in a mood, the negative thoughts are a lot more powerful than positive ones. It’s so easy to think of something negative. This exercise, allows your mind to tell your brain, “Ok, you do not like it but, here at least there is something positive in the situation.” You want to keep trying to put these positive thoughts into your mind until they start to become second nature in your daily practice.

I wanted to share this little exercise because it seems to help me. It does take time and patience, but try not to be hard on yourself. Gratitude is something most of us don’t practice because we are stuck in the past or future of being without. This exercise allows me to pay attention to the moment and can help me change my thoughts. I hope it does the same for you.

What kind of practices do you do to help change your mood?

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2019 – I am Ready and Here is My List!

I decided to list my goals and joy prompts for 2019. I believe I am already working towards these goals, but they are a reminder that I am at the next leave of progress. My joy prompts a list of items that I would like to do. They are there when I feel stuck or want more out of a day, week or month. It is a great reminder just to enjoy life.

Goals for 2019:

  • Four Months of No Spend in 2019
  • Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
  • Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
  • No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
  • No phone for 1 hour in the morning (timers are fantastic)
  • Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12
  • Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
  • Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
  • Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
  • Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
  • Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance) Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
  • Build a solid client list for Pet Care
  • 10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
  • Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
  • Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
  • No clothes buying unless needed
  • Fix my Teeth ASAP

Things To Prompt Joy:

  • Read A Book from Cover to Cover While Marking It Up
  • Game Night
  • Drawing
  • Color in a Book
  • Taking the Ferry
  • Fruit Picking
  • Email A Friend
  • Respond to A Friend
  • Go Horseback Riding
  • Take a Class
  • A weekend away
  • A trip to See Family
  • Love Notes
  • Spend a day taking photos
  • Going to the Movie
  • Seeing the Sunrise
  • Seeing the Sunset
  • Listen to Audible Books (learn a subject)
  • Brush up with Spanish
  • Take care of plants
  • Sit in a coffee shop and read
  • Take A Yoga Class
  • Take a train ride to Upstate NY
  • Family Trip
  • A weekend indoors without worrying about money, work or entertaining
  • Try a new recipe
  • Connect with someone I haven’t been in contact in a while
  • Try a new food
  • Research someone I admire
  • Being Honest
  • Play Roblox while talking to daughter while on the phone
  • Make Sandwiches and Hand Them Out to Homeless People
  • Write Lists
  • Thrift Shopping
  • Hug Someone
  • Dusting
  • Swings
  • Sitting Still
  • Mediation
  • Cooking Dinner
  • Napping
  • A call to my sister
  • Send my grandmother a care package
  • Write a letter to a friend or family member
  • Music and Wine
  • Laundry
  • Being Home Early
  • Smile at the Sun
  • Get a Massage
  • Being Heard
  • Researching Better Business Practices
  • Excel Sheets
  • A new computer
  • Trying Something New
  • Creating a vlog
  • Creating a blog
  • Live life like a marathon (I work better this way)
  • Listen to a podcast
  • Go on a boat ride
  • Destroy a Book
  • Say yes with something I want to do
  • Say No and stick to it
  • Trust My Gut (it seems to work better than my head)
  • No work day
  • Notecards with inspiration
  • Todo list
  • One in / one out Rule
  • Walk Through Central Park
  • Cook a meal with my daughter
  • Doodle
  • Cuddling with Charlotte
  • Think about nothing
  • A quiet space
  • Classic Rock
  • Old Country and Folk Music
  • Showing Gratitude
  • Cleaning a cluttered area
  • Rearranging a space
  • Cookies
  • Work at my own pace
  • Accomplishing a goal
  • Making the bed
  • Exploring a Neighborhood
  • Drinking Water
  • Smoothies
  • Cuddling with a dog
  • Going over a todo list
  • When everyone is happy
  • Spa Day
  • Growing out my Hair
  • No phone days
  • Writing
  • Painting My Nails
  • Doing One Thing at a time
  • Paying Off Debt
  • Brushing a bush with my Hand
  • Setting a Timer
  • Talking to a friend
  • Hearing Laughter
  • Seeing my daughter’s smile
  • Putting on Makeup
  • Getting Dressed-up
  • Having a Lazy Day
  • Skincare Day
  • Showers
  • Lotion
  • The moon
  • Telling Someone why they inspire me
  • Holding the door for someone
  • Giving a little gift to someone
  • Hearing my daughter’s breath
  • Practicing Gratitude
  • Looking up and smiling
  • Cutting Paper
  • Not giving up
  • This is a quick list, and this post is to keep me accountable. What things do you have a plan in 2019?

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