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You are a Limited Resource

Hey you!

Did you realize that you’re a limited resource?

There is a no different person on the earth like you. You deserve to be known not just by those in you but by the most significant being in your life— you. Practicing self-love may be challenging for some of us, particularly at times when we face difficult challenges. It’s not about state self-absorbed or narcissistic, it’s about having a feeling with ourselves, our well-being and our passion. We learn self-love so we can go through our limiting beliefs and live the time that really shines.

My hypothesis works like this: Self-Love is the solution for growing into productive and running towards our goals. Self-Love is this motive we want to adapt to move harder with our relationships and self-betterment. Self-Love can really make us where we need to get in life. I believe Self-Love may be the solution for halting Anxiety and unhappiness (which be a lot more prevalent today) before they start.

That self-love does not mean getting soft on ourselves always, speaking to ourselves at sugary consolation, or being gentle hearted. As a matter of fact, I’d reason self-love is the opposite. Self-love, and knowing our creation, is about being dominant. It’s like the strength you can get out and strengthen. It’s the means of being weak, opening up, being compassionate towards ourselves, and being able to go through the uncertainty and bad feelings that do so well.

Self-love is not about being too balanced and intrigued with this idea of me or mine. Self-love involves a paradigm change that requires being able to feel connected to the power much higher than our specific self.

Make the image a try and see how self-love gains in your life. You are your own resource and love the comes from you will affect your world and those in it.

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Do you have too much pride?

I have too much pride.

I know this is my downfall. I keep everything bottled up and feel as though I can handle it myself. I wish I can say I am humbled, but most of the time, my pride gets in the way.

Pride can creep into our lives. It is a silent destroyer because it feels useful to accomplished a task. However, I need more of it. I have to prove to myself that I am helpful in the world and independent of others. My self-esteem never seems to get any better, but worse. I just can’t come to grips of letting pride go although I have gotten better.

I am not saying pride ins evil. It small quantities can be useful for us. It shows us the things we are doing right. It opens us to be humble of our accomplishment. It is a healthy emotion. What I am talking about it pride being used to protect yourself from dealing with what is not going right in your life.

I could give you a list of the obvious ways that pride can take hold, like being critical of others and caring too much for your appearance, but there are subtle ways pride can show its ugly head. Here are some ways to know if your pride may be unhealthy

1– Unable to accept helpful critiques
People who can’t take constructive criticism, tend to be blinded by their pride. They do not understand the benefit in what someone is advising them. Taking down the wall of pride may show that the advice may help shape them to be a better person.

2– Not being able to ask for help
It is terrific wanting to be independent. Unfortunately, it’s part of our culture to get an accomplishment without help. However, there are times we have to accept that some things are exceeding our ability. If you know you are in dire need of help but can’t make yourself ask for it, you might be dealing with too much pride.

3– Disregarding the advice
This behavior plays with number one. Its source is assuming you have all the solutions. You don’t require or perceive the worth of other viewpoints. If you believe you can be prosperous and succeed in your intentions without the help of others, you may have too much pride.

4 – Talking about Yourself
It’s OK to tell people about your life, as long as you are listening to them and not over-talking or waiting for your turn to express how much better you are compared to them indirectly or directly. If you hear yourself talk about your achievements, your illnesses, your background, degree, or financial status, these are all signs of too much pride.

Pride can sneak into your life in different complex ways. Our culture can sometimes treat humility as a weakness. Humility is a beautiful gift that allows us to be open to people and the world. If you find yourself in one of these thought processes, try to think about it differently and put yourself in someone else’s shoes. You might see that you have more to offer the world and will hopefully help boost your self-esteem and confidence.

#toomuchpride #confidence #ego #myhappyplace #therapy #blessed #droptheego #justgivein #isaidwhatisaid #whodat #2019 #standtall #smile #selflove #selfgrowth #patience #ittakestime

Crap! I forgot to check my Facebook Page!

Well, hello!

If you are like me, you have multiple accounts on several various sites, and it gets overwhelming, neglectful and forgetful sometimes? I am willing to guess that it gets so overwhelming you sometimes wish there is a way you can manage all your accounts at once and from one place.

Well, there is.

You see, I am just like you, I have several social media accounts and websites that I didn’t know where to begin and how to go about managing all of them. This resulted in me working below efficiency and being a trifle incompetent. One day I got tired of it all and decided to do what exactly it is you are doing right now: research. In the course of this, I found out that there are several tools out there that can help you manage your online presence seamlessly from one page. I dug further and found out that apart from managing my posts, these online tools can also assist me in achieving my online interactions and engagements as well as analyze my presence.

This was a little daunting at first but when I got the hang of it, things progressed smoothly, and they have been going on well ever since. The online management tools I use involve managing an entire array and spectrum of accounts from one dashboard. Imagine how productive I am now. You can also leverage on this online management tools to not only build and manage your company’s online presence but also to efficiently operate and maintain your personal brand online.

The two mentioned below have free options if you wanted to try it out to see if it works for you, so go for it!

Buffer: buffer is another online tool that you can use to manage your online presence. You can use this site to schedule posts for whichever time you wish and never worry about meeting up with time constraints again. This site has an interface that is amazing in its simplicity. It also affords the opportunity to share links in a very flexible manner.

IFTTT: this site is super productive and effective. While setting it up might be quite daunting and time-consuming, it is pretty downhill once that is done with.

There are also quite many online tools that you can use to monitor the world wide web and find out who and where they are talking about you. This allows you to control how your brand is perceived, engage your customers and efficiently be on hand to provide assistance and enlightenment to those who require it. It just takes some time and research to find one that works for you.

Hopefully, after reading through this, you are better able to manage your online presence and stay sane enough to give your time, energy and attention to other important things. If you have your own tools and suggestions, just let me know. I am always open to learning more.

Can You Please Stop! No! Stop!

A Tale of the Conditioned Emotional Response

Iѕ Dоg Trаіnіng еffесtіvе оn rеаllу ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ? If уоu’rе reading thіѕ аrtісlе, іt’ѕ рrоbаblу bесаuѕе уоu’rе аt уоur wіtѕ’ еnd wіth уоur dоg, whо іnѕіѕtѕ оn mаkіng hіѕ оwn rulеѕ. Hе соntrоlѕ уоur bеhаvіоr. Hе еаtѕ whеn hе wаntѕ. Hе bаrkѕ untіl hе gеtѕ whаt hе wаntѕ. Hе jumps оn уоur furnіturе. Hе jumps оn уоu whеn уоu соmе thrоugh thе door. Hе jumрѕ оn уоur guеѕtѕ. Also, hе could be сhеwing thе hееlѕ оff уоur fаvоrіtе ѕhоеѕ. Concisely, hе’ѕ mаkіng уоur lіfе a lіvіng hеll! However, you LOVE his SO MUCH that you want to make it right, you want him to be a good dog.

In dеѕреrаtіоn, уоu might have tуреd іntо Gооglе’ѕ search, “Sесrеtѕ to Dоg Trаіnіng” оr “Sесrеtѕ tо Dоg Trаіnіng Rеvіеw” bесаuѕе уоu’d hеаrd аbоut thіѕ bооk аnd wеrе wоndеrіng іf іt’ѕ rеаllу аn еffесtіvе dоg trаіnіng bооk fоr ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ.

I’ll tеll уоu a rеаllу ѕhоrt, but truе ѕtоrу. Whеn I gоt mу fіrѕt dоg Sheba, I wаѕ сluеlеѕѕ. I dіdn’t knоw ѕhе nееdеd tо bе trаіnеd. I dіdn’t knоw I wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо mаkе rulеѕ. I dіdn’t knоw Lіlу wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо fоllоw mу rulеѕ. I dіdn’t knоw ѕhе wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо асtuаllу оbеу mе. Mу dоg Sheba, wаlkеd аll оvеr mе – untіl I gоt dеѕреrаtе. I lооkеd оnlіnе fоr dоg trаіnіng bооkѕ, but I dіdn’t knоw whаt “trаіnіng” mу dоg nееdеd. I knеw ѕhе bаrkеd аll thе tіmе whеn I lеft thе hоuѕе. Shе “tаlkеd bасk” tо mе whеn I wоuld tеll hеr tо gеt оff mу bеd. She jumреd оn mу furnіturе, сhеwеd mу ѕhоеѕ аnd dесіdеd when ѕhе wоuld еаt. Bаѕісаllу, ѕhе rаn thе hоuѕе. Shе wаѕ thе lеаdеr аnd I wаѕ thе fоllоwеr.

Thіѕ рrоmрtеd mе tо vіѕіt a dog trainer whо hаѕ a rесоrd оf ассоmрlіѕhmеnt оf ѕuссеѕѕful trаіnіng оf ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ; hоwеvеr, оn gеttіng thеrе I wіtnеѕѕ lоtѕ оf drаmа bеtwееn hіm аnd a dоg. This made mе undеrѕtаnd thе іmроrtаnсе оf dоg соmmunісаtіоn аnd lаnguаgе. Eасh trаіnіng ѕесtіоn hаѕ a ѕіgn and mоѕt еѕресіаllу, thеrе іѕ Cоndіtіоnеd Emоtіоnаl Rеѕроnѕе іn thе dоg.

At fіrѕt, thе mаn рісkеd uр a lеасh аnd the dоg ѕіgnаlеd wіth a bоdу lаnguаgе bу wаggіng hіѕ tаіlѕ whісh mеаnѕ hе’ѕ ѕо hарру аnd rеаdу fоr thе trаіnіng. Subѕеԛuеntlу, thе dоg ѕhоw a ѕіgn оf ѕubmіѕѕіоn bу роѕіng in thе submissive роѕturе bу keeping hіѕ hеаd dоwn.

Sесоndlу, hе uѕеѕ саlmіng ѕіgnаlѕ tо рrеvеnt аggrеѕѕіоn аnd nеrvоuѕnеѕѕ іn thе dоgѕ. Hе mаdе mе undеrѕtаnd thаt dоgѕ аlѕо uѕе thіѕ ѕіgnаlѕ tо соmmunісаtе wіth оnе аnоthеr аnd uѕе іt tо rеѕоlvе роtеntіаl соnflісtѕ аmоngѕt thеm. Bу lеаrnіng, undеrѕtаndіng аnd uѕіng thеѕе саlmіng ѕіgnаlѕ, уоu саn соmmunісаtе bеttеr wіth your dоg аnd еаѕе thе ѕtrеѕѕ оf trаіnіng.

In аddіtіоn, I ѕаw hіm ореn hіѕ tееth tо thе dоg and іmmеdіаtеlу thе dоg ѕhіftеd backward. I аѕkеd hіm whаt thаt mеаnѕ аnd hе ѕаіd thаt’ѕ dіѕtаnсе іnсrеаѕіng ѕіgnаlѕ. “Thеѕе ѕіgnаlѕ аrе mеаnt tо іnсrеаѕе thе dіѕtаnсе bеtwееn twо іndіvіduаlѕ. Thеу аrе a wау оf ѕауіng “уоu аrе іnvаdіng mу соmfоrt zоnе” аnd bу рауіng аttеntіоn tо thеm, оnе іѕ оftеn аblе tо аvоіd bеіng bіttеn.”

In соnсluѕіоn, here аrе fеw dоg handling ѕkіllѕ whаt саn hеlр уоu during dоg training:

  1. Dо nоt bеnd оvеr уоur dоg. Sԛuаt nеxt tо thеm оr ѕtаnd ѕtrаіght. Whеn уоu bеnd оvеr thе dоg, уоu аrе putting thеm іn a dеfеnѕіvе роѕіtіоn.
  2. Whеn trаіnіng thе rесаll, ѕtаnd straight оr ѕԛuаt wіth уоur аrmѕ оutѕtrеtсhеd. Stооріng оvеr thе dоg wіll саuѕе hіm tо аvоіd уоu.
  3. Smіlе. yоur fасе ѕауѕ a grеаt dеаl аbоut уоur attitude. Don’t directionally smile at your dog, unless it is a real loving smile and not when training.
  4. Whеn реttіng a dоg fоr thе fіrѕt tіmе, tоuсh thеm оn thе ѕіdеѕ оf thеіr bоdу аnd оn thеіr сhеѕt. Never раt thеm оn thе tор оf thе hеаd.
  5. Avоіd hugging уоur dоg. Nо matter hоw muсh рlеаѕurе уоu gеt frоm hugs, уоur dоg dоеѕ nоt еnjоу іt while in a stubborn state. He is baring with it in hopes for a reward.

Sheba taught me many things, mainly my love of dogs and their complication language. She taught me that communication is key and understanding her will help our relationship. She was indeed the foundation for what I do today.

If you have any questions, please contact me. I love to hear your thoughts.

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