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My Spiritual Self Care Routine

A new month is nearing, and I thought I would share some ways that I was practicing self-care and healing last month.

I enjoy connecting with the natural world by acknowledging this valuable Earth and its resources. I do not attempt for perfection in my journey, even now.

I know that some people are ready to jump into self-care and self-development but might feel overwhelmed with where to start. I hope that I can share more acumen with all of you.

Go Barefoot:
Earthing is the practice of shoeless walking. It feels good to go barefooted and do this with confidence, without craving the acceptance of others. I feel grounded on this Earth and get the sensation that I do belong on this planet and this Universe.

Breathe Mindfully:
I often hold my breath and looked tense when things get a little rough. I have experienced more emotional security and calm after following different breathing techniques. Mindful breathing allows me to be more in the present moment. It helps me better cope with my anxious feelings.

Healthy Nourishment:
I drink celery juice and smoothies every day, and I also take supplements. When I support myself entirely through nourishment, I can extend the same to those around me. I try to promote joy not only for myself but for all living beings.

Try Yoga:
I practice yoga. I don’t focus too much on the perfection of my form, but more so on my breathing and the awareness that I feel in my body and mind. I try to stay mindful even through the discomfort.

Connection through Meditation:
I started meditating about ten years ago. I was not able to focus in the beginning. It took me a few years to be aware of my breath and posture. I try to keep up with my morning prayers. I also express affirmations daily when I meditate. I do this to unite with the divine being and my spiritual self.

I’m grateful that you stuck around to read what I have shared.

Please let me know if you have practice any self-care routines in May, and how did you feel about it? Do you intend to continue self-care or start in June?

I hope so!

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“Stop being a Jerk!”

No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” yet, it could not strike me at all to see that some of my friends and family believe my emotions are self-serving. Furthermore to be clear, getting emotional does cause me to do some pretty self-centered things at the name of self-care. Then to those people who believe my emotion is selfish, I get it.

Really, I do.

The situation is, my emotions are uncertain, so sometimes I’m somewhat unpredictable. There’s not more I can do about this. I can’t just plan my anxiety attacks ahead of time. Oh, sometimes managing my emotions means canceling plans last minute so I will stay home and concentrate on my breathing. Sometimes it means dropping out with my friends. I would rather instead virtually observe and like photos. I totally can’t speak to them when I am way too anxious.

While I ultimately see how someone might believe my emotion is merely an excuse to be a flaky jerk, it’s really not. I’ve realized that I can be sort of flaky sometimes. Yes, I don’t attend functions and would rather avoid your text on an invitation than confront the fact that I will disappoint you. I mean I am literally worried about everything at that point. I am too worried to understand that not saying anything is worse than a saying, “no.”

This is rude as hell, but on these times that my emotions are out of power, it’s not at all unusual for me to withdraw any and all plans to interact with other humans. There are moments when my mind is trying very hard to defend me by getting me to accept the worst possible consequences for my actions, which sometimes only leads me to get more emotional than I had been in the first place.

Let me be clear: No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” However, every day, I feel like this, and it doesn’t go away. I have learned to accept it and clear out some of the mental clutter, but when an attack happens I want to scream to my anxiety, “Why are you taking this away from my loved ones and me? I want to feel and experience!”

“Stop being a Jerk!”

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You are a Limited Resource

Hey you!

Did you realize that you’re a limited resource?

There is a no different person on the earth like you. You deserve to be known not just by those in you but by the most significant being in your life— you. Practicing self-love may be challenging for some of us, particularly at times when we face difficult challenges. It’s not about state self-absorbed or narcissistic, it’s about having a feeling with ourselves, our well-being and our passion. We learn self-love so we can go through our limiting beliefs and live the time that really shines.

My hypothesis works like this: Self-Love is the solution for growing into productive and running towards our goals. Self-Love is this motive we want to adapt to move harder with our relationships and self-betterment. Self-Love can really make us where we need to get in life. I believe Self-Love may be the solution for halting Anxiety and unhappiness (which be a lot more prevalent today) before they start.

That self-love does not mean getting soft on ourselves always, speaking to ourselves at sugary consolation, or being gentle hearted. As a matter of fact, I’d reason self-love is the opposite. Self-love, and knowing our creation, is about being dominant. It’s like the strength you can get out and strengthen. It’s the means of being weak, opening up, being compassionate towards ourselves, and being able to go through the uncertainty and bad feelings that do so well.

Self-love is not about being too balanced and intrigued with this idea of me or mine. Self-love involves a paradigm change that requires being able to feel connected to the power much higher than our specific self.

Make the image a try and see how self-love gains in your life. You are your own resource and love the comes from you will affect your world and those in it.

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Low-Key Week of Clothes

“Fashion fades, style is eternal.” – Yves Saint-Laurent

It’s winter in Brooklyn and unless you work in the fashion industry, you probably are not wearing your best clothes in fear of the snow, salt, and cold. My job is a little unique because I get to work from home or be outside walking (a lot). My fashion is pretty low-key both I thought it would be fun to share my week with you.

It’s winter in Brooklyn, and unless you work in the fashion industry, you probably are not wearing your best clothes in fear of the snow, salt, and cold. I want an outfit that is comfy, cozy and casual. My job is a little unique because I get to work from home or be outside walking (a lot). My fashion is pretty low-key both I thought it would be fun to share my week with you in clothes.

I don’t own very much in the way of clothes. I have a small wardrobe. I don’t need very much and I usually, wait for the season or things to worn. I guess this is an excellent way to see a low-key fashion minimalist style.

Let me know your style in the comments below:

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Laundry Day mean Pajama Day!

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I don’t want to deal

This blog is just a free following piece about my day and feelings. I am sure it will be riddled with a ton of grammar mistakes, but that is my natural state of being. I am completely imperfect.

It’s a cold day in Brooklyn. I do not want to go outdoors but I must as my job is to be there. Most of the time I do not mind it, but today, it just seems unmeasurable in torture.

My daughter is sick, and I feel I should be here for her. I don’t see her enough and here I go, leaving her when she needs me. I worry that my actions will mess her up somehow, but I try not to think of it. I have to work. I have to provide support to her and my family.

I always worry that I am never good enough. I am also self-absorbed and stuck in my head. I keep wondering of what could be instead of what is now. I try to think of ways to be more present, but sometimes I fail. I am just not ready to deal.

It is cold out today, and I don’t want to deal. I would rather be indoors and help my child heal.

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Can You Please Stop! No! Stop!

A Tale of the Conditioned Emotional Response

Iѕ Dоg Trаіnіng еffесtіvе оn rеаllу ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ? If уоu’rе reading thіѕ аrtісlе, іt’ѕ рrоbаblу bесаuѕе уоu’rе аt уоur wіtѕ’ еnd wіth уоur dоg, whо іnѕіѕtѕ оn mаkіng hіѕ оwn rulеѕ. Hе соntrоlѕ уоur bеhаvіоr. Hе еаtѕ whеn hе wаntѕ. Hе bаrkѕ untіl hе gеtѕ whаt hе wаntѕ. Hе jumps оn уоur furnіturе. Hе jumps оn уоu whеn уоu соmе thrоugh thе door. Hе jumрѕ оn уоur guеѕtѕ. Also, hе could be сhеwing thе hееlѕ оff уоur fаvоrіtе ѕhоеѕ. Concisely, hе’ѕ mаkіng уоur lіfе a lіvіng hеll! However, you LOVE his SO MUCH that you want to make it right, you want him to be a good dog.

In dеѕреrаtіоn, уоu might have tуреd іntо Gооglе’ѕ search, “Sесrеtѕ to Dоg Trаіnіng” оr “Sесrеtѕ tо Dоg Trаіnіng Rеvіеw” bесаuѕе уоu’d hеаrd аbоut thіѕ bооk аnd wеrе wоndеrіng іf іt’ѕ rеаllу аn еffесtіvе dоg trаіnіng bооk fоr ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ.

I’ll tеll уоu a rеаllу ѕhоrt, but truе ѕtоrу. Whеn I gоt mу fіrѕt dоg Sheba, I wаѕ сluеlеѕѕ. I dіdn’t knоw ѕhе nееdеd tо bе trаіnеd. I dіdn’t knоw I wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо mаkе rulеѕ. I dіdn’t knоw Lіlу wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо fоllоw mу rulеѕ. I dіdn’t knоw ѕhе wаѕ ѕuрроѕеd tо асtuаllу оbеу mе. Mу dоg Sheba, wаlkеd аll оvеr mе – untіl I gоt dеѕреrаtе. I lооkеd оnlіnе fоr dоg trаіnіng bооkѕ, but I dіdn’t knоw whаt “trаіnіng” mу dоg nееdеd. I knеw ѕhе bаrkеd аll thе tіmе whеn I lеft thе hоuѕе. Shе “tаlkеd bасk” tо mе whеn I wоuld tеll hеr tо gеt оff mу bеd. She jumреd оn mу furnіturе, сhеwеd mу ѕhоеѕ аnd dесіdеd when ѕhе wоuld еаt. Bаѕісаllу, ѕhе rаn thе hоuѕе. Shе wаѕ thе lеаdеr аnd I wаѕ thе fоllоwеr.

Thіѕ рrоmрtеd mе tо vіѕіt a dog trainer whо hаѕ a rесоrd оf ассоmрlіѕhmеnt оf ѕuссеѕѕful trаіnіng оf ѕtubbоrn dоgѕ; hоwеvеr, оn gеttіng thеrе I wіtnеѕѕ lоtѕ оf drаmа bеtwееn hіm аnd a dоg. This made mе undеrѕtаnd thе іmроrtаnсе оf dоg соmmunісаtіоn аnd lаnguаgе. Eасh trаіnіng ѕесtіоn hаѕ a ѕіgn and mоѕt еѕресіаllу, thеrе іѕ Cоndіtіоnеd Emоtіоnаl Rеѕроnѕе іn thе dоg.

At fіrѕt, thе mаn рісkеd uр a lеасh аnd the dоg ѕіgnаlеd wіth a bоdу lаnguаgе bу wаggіng hіѕ tаіlѕ whісh mеаnѕ hе’ѕ ѕо hарру аnd rеаdу fоr thе trаіnіng. Subѕеԛuеntlу, thе dоg ѕhоw a ѕіgn оf ѕubmіѕѕіоn bу роѕіng in thе submissive роѕturе bу keeping hіѕ hеаd dоwn.

Sесоndlу, hе uѕеѕ саlmіng ѕіgnаlѕ tо рrеvеnt аggrеѕѕіоn аnd nеrvоuѕnеѕѕ іn thе dоgѕ. Hе mаdе mе undеrѕtаnd thаt dоgѕ аlѕо uѕе thіѕ ѕіgnаlѕ tо соmmunісаtе wіth оnе аnоthеr аnd uѕе іt tо rеѕоlvе роtеntіаl соnflісtѕ аmоngѕt thеm. Bу lеаrnіng, undеrѕtаndіng аnd uѕіng thеѕе саlmіng ѕіgnаlѕ, уоu саn соmmunісаtе bеttеr wіth your dоg аnd еаѕе thе ѕtrеѕѕ оf trаіnіng.

In аddіtіоn, I ѕаw hіm ореn hіѕ tееth tо thе dоg and іmmеdіаtеlу thе dоg ѕhіftеd backward. I аѕkеd hіm whаt thаt mеаnѕ аnd hе ѕаіd thаt’ѕ dіѕtаnсе іnсrеаѕіng ѕіgnаlѕ. “Thеѕе ѕіgnаlѕ аrе mеаnt tо іnсrеаѕе thе dіѕtаnсе bеtwееn twо іndіvіduаlѕ. Thеу аrе a wау оf ѕауіng “уоu аrе іnvаdіng mу соmfоrt zоnе” аnd bу рауіng аttеntіоn tо thеm, оnе іѕ оftеn аblе tо аvоіd bеіng bіttеn.”

In соnсluѕіоn, here аrе fеw dоg handling ѕkіllѕ whаt саn hеlр уоu during dоg training:

  1. Dо nоt bеnd оvеr уоur dоg. Sԛuаt nеxt tо thеm оr ѕtаnd ѕtrаіght. Whеn уоu bеnd оvеr thе dоg, уоu аrе putting thеm іn a dеfеnѕіvе роѕіtіоn.
  2. Whеn trаіnіng thе rесаll, ѕtаnd straight оr ѕԛuаt wіth уоur аrmѕ оutѕtrеtсhеd. Stооріng оvеr thе dоg wіll саuѕе hіm tо аvоіd уоu.
  3. Smіlе. yоur fасе ѕауѕ a grеаt dеаl аbоut уоur attitude. Don’t directionally smile at your dog, unless it is a real loving smile and not when training.
  4. Whеn реttіng a dоg fоr thе fіrѕt tіmе, tоuсh thеm оn thе ѕіdеѕ оf thеіr bоdу аnd оn thеіr сhеѕt. Never раt thеm оn thе tор оf thе hеаd.
  5. Avоіd hugging уоur dоg. Nо matter hоw muсh рlеаѕurе уоu gеt frоm hugs, уоur dоg dоеѕ nоt еnjоу іt while in a stubborn state. He is baring with it in hopes for a reward.

Sheba taught me many things, mainly my love of dogs and their complication language. She taught me that communication is key and understanding her will help our relationship. She was indeed the foundation for what I do today.

If you have any questions, please contact me. I love to hear your thoughts.

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