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Holding Yourself Back

Tip: Look for a language that places you as a victim. “No one understands” or “always happens to me bad” is a red flag.

If you are thinking of yourself as a victim, take a deep breath and then make a step to improve your life. The best way to deal with self-doubt is to test your forehead on your forethoughts. Your brain will have a slight difference of observation as you confirm that your mind is capable and having checked your doubts will develop your mind.

You cannot expect to know everything about yourself when you don’t try. If you think of yourself as an expert in something, it’s easy to assume that you know everything. You have to be open to change. Decluttering your mind opens you up to that change and to new possibilities. You can learn from others’ and your mistakes and make better decisions for yourself. It’s a good idea to keep your mind free of all the things you don’t need and just focus on what you do need to be content with life.

These are some suggestions helping to get rid of any clutter in your mind that may be holding you back. If you are not sure where to start, try these tips:

  1. Find a place that feels comfortable so you can be opened to change and find an intention.
  2. Find someone who has been there before and knows how to deal with it.
  3. Take some time to think about what you want out of life and then find a way to make it happen.
  4. Find a hobby that makes you happy and doesn’t require much effort. This is a great way to keep yourself busy while also keeping your mind clear and focused.
  5. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself and your work even if it’s just for a few minutes.
  6. Take a walk around your neighborhood or park.
  7. Find a quiet spot in your house where you can sit and meditate.
  8. Write down all the things you need to do, and list them on a piece of paper in order of importance.
  9. Get rid of anything that distracts you from your work-related tasks by being mindful of the actions you take before you start your work. You will be surprised just how much mess you have in your mind before you even begin an important task.

How do you protect your mind? Find your intention or purpose for your moment or day. Focus on what needs to be done to help get some of the load off your mind. The intention is an integral part of your life, and we all need to be aware of what it’s doing to us.

When you’re in a mental state of chaos, there is no way out but through the mind. If you want to get rid of clutter, then stop thinking about it and start focusing on the present moment or your intention. Don’t think about how much time you have left or if you can’t get it done. Just do it.

This will help you feel more at peace with yourself and your surroundings. I’m sure you’ve heard this before: ” the only thing that matters is what happens next. So make the most of it! Don’t worry about tomorrow, just live now!”.

If we will focus on how we use our self to organize your thoughts and create a life of mindfulness and relaxation, peace, peace, and freedom.

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HOW MINIMALISM FEED THE MIND AND SOUL?

Minimalism refers to having fewer possessions in life whereas minimalism for the mind and soul relate to owning less but having satisfactory in living. It is not only about having fewer things but having more meaning in our life.

Simplicity or clarity is a direction starting from soul to the heart, body, mind, and our home or it is vice versa. Our deepest secrets, thoughts, feelings, and choices are hidden deep inside our soul.

To achieve simplicity, one needs to do things that nurture the soul. Here are some of the ways that help:

It generates choices
Through minimalism, we accept the things that matter to us and ignore those who veer us away from our purposes.

Creates the place for space
Every single bit of us needs some space from the world for “me” time that soothes the soul and mind.

Minimalism disengages additional pressure
A cured soul needs no one to influence. A restored soul is content with the less and has no interest in having more.

Minimalism helps to untangles everything
With less pressure, in our minds, in our homes, we can handle almost everything that comes our way. It makes our mind productive by focusing on the things that matter.

Shows our true self
The most important reason for including minimalism in our lives is that it shows our true self. It makes us look through our soul. We could see our goals, our value, our capabilities, our flaws with understandable clarity and accepting ourselves the way we are.

Stimulates creativity
Eliminating all that is preventing you to focus on the real intentions will help you take a closer step towards creativity and will expand your imagination.

Decluttered mind
With fewer things in the ownership, you will be able to pay attention more on contentment. Your mind will have less to concentrate.

Assessing minimalism
It helps you understand why do we have certain possessions and why we don’t. It helps in evaluating the things we need the most and the things that aren’t that useful for our mind and soul.

Start living a simple life. There is no right time to start anything that causes positive changes in a person’s life. What are ways you can help mend your soul?

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You Decluttered – Now What?

When you think of minimalism, some may feel that it is living without. It’s taking everything you own and decluttering it. It is a physical process to free up space, but it is so much more. It’s a lifestyle, a thoughtful process and a cue to recognized how present you live your life.

Although clearing out your things can be rewarding if you do not take care of the mental hiccups that got you into consuming you will end up right back doing what you know best – buying more.

I like minimalism. I choose it because it is a personal journey. I still have my religion. I can even eat meat. I can buy that bamboo diffuser that I waited a month to purchase. It’s all a matter of choice. The choices we make when it comes to minimalism is base on energy and being comfortable in your environment.

It’s been my experience that the less you have to deal with physically the more you can enjoy your life. Once the declutter is done the real stuff begins.

You may find yourself stuck with your thoughts and how to maneuver your life to bring you to your goals. You may not feel stuck. It is a personal journey.

However, two things can happen at this point. You buy stuff in the effort to reach your goal, or you cultivate the existing items in your home and life that will help you achieve your goals. One of these may have you decluttering again in a couple of months and then entirely postponing your intentions. The other may give you space and time to accommodate the path to your goals. I not saying decluttering is the cure, but it does help to take that bandage off so you may understand the “why” of achieving the objective.

Simply put, having fewer things is having the opportunity to live more. It’s a scary prospect because what does more look like? It’s different for everyone and what you think your goal would be at the beginning of your journey may not necessarily be the goal you end up.

For me, my journey started because I needed money and I had too many things. I wanted some space to think and not be easily distracted so I could accomplish my goal, which at the time was just a word. I didn’t know what I wanted. I just wanted out of this life that was drowning me.

Today, I have goals. I want to write more and build my own business. Two things that were entirely not on my radar because I felt frightened to put myself out there and to fail. I realized that my physical items acted as a crutch. I didn’t have to deal with life. My things were also a token that I am alive. A dead person can’t own an impressive makeup collection or a killer reading library. In the end, I had not developed memories, journeys or motivation to live that life. I was surrounding myself with a barracks. No one could get in, and no one (including me) could get out.

When you hit the right quantity of items, you will know. It’s your journey to find that contentment so I can’t give you a number. In this process, you can change in positive ways. This notion includes breaking down the barracks that kept you from living. It’s isn’t about removing the things you love but the things that distract you. These distractions are what you need to get rid of to get to that happy goal or place where you are delighted with your space both mentally and physically.

Minimalism isn’t about living with less but living meaningfully. So, now that you decluttered, what is it that you want? What keeps popping up in your mind? What are you always dreaming of that you have the time to invest?

Decluttering is the starting foundation to make a better environment that will allow you to figure out your mental journey of planning your life, both the present and the future.

It’s really up to you how you use your new found space.

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Resolution 2019 – February Update

Now that January is over, I thought it would be best to see if I am still making progress with my many resolutions. I know I have a lot, but I have a lot to change. I think going forward, I may write a post to keep me accountable for the list. So, here we go:

Check-in for Goals for 2019:

Four Months of No Spend in 2019
Not yet, but January I saw a dramatic decrease in my spending. Unfortunately, I had some personal issues at the end of the month that cause me to spend what I saved. I guess I am grateful for the savings as I would not have it otherwise.

February will probably be more of mindful spending and consuming. I am just asking myself those child-like questions, “Do you really need it? Can it wait? Why do you need it.”

Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
This actually happened because I sent him my list. I think I was trapped in doing things rather than thinking of actions and I was a complete mess in December. I was very closed off and was dealing with mental health issues. He made it a point to take, and from that, we were able to solve and restart some plans that became wayward in my mind.

Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
I know this sound like a silly goal, but I literally worked like every day last year. Much like spending time with everyone else, I didn’t feel complete and insecure enough to show her myself.

So, the beginning of the year was rough because I really didn’t have the time. I took off in December to deal with issues.

However, because I can set my hours and she had a HORRIBLE teacher this year. We decided to pull her from school and home school her. It is a scary thing to be in charge of your kid’s lessons, but last week was magical. She wanted to hang on me and talk to me. We were bonding, it was a very positive experience.

No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
Yes, I slipped a couple of times, but for the most part, I been making this resolution. It feels great to take a break from the cyber life that we all create.

I actually didn’t spend much time on any social media. I didn’t have time, because I wanted to focus on these resolutions and my challenges. I am posting more on Instagram, but the pictures are always real. I much rather have two followers on IG than 2,000,000 followers and be pressured to live an artificial life.

No phone for 1 hour in the morning
Not so good at the moment. I started strong but my work is weird, and I get calls and text as soon as I wake up. I have been good at not going on social media for at least an hour, but the no phone rule is pretty tricky for me to do every day. I am still trying tactics to get at least a month to no phone in the morning.

Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12am
This has been the most comfortable resolution. Now, I get tired at 11pm!!!! I have a feeling no social media before bed is helping this goal. I also have set two timers. One at 10:30PM to remind me to get ready and one at 11PM to get ready for sleep. It’s been amazing, and I am really proud of myself with this goal.

Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
I started out loud, but then life happens. I haven’t touched this for at least ten days. I am not taking it as a bad thing because the pages are not going anywhere. I think I am going to change it to write three sentences a day. It was my old rule, and it seems to work well as a prompt. I will let you know how it goes in February.

Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
With arduous work and support, I have paid $1500 this month 🙂

Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
This is actually a lot easier when there is no social media presence. You are kind of forced to talk to each other. It’s almost like the bad habits I was picking up came from my desire to be perfect like my friends and influencers. We talk to together. I love it.

Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
I have done this goal, and sometimes it is SO HARD to accomplish! I am not a social person. I don’t even know how to start a conversation. Luckily, the few people in my life are amazing and understand my limitation and for now are OK with texting and the occasional GIF.

Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance)
I have, but not really. January was a hectic month. In February, I am going to really work on my pet store. I need money, and that has to be my focus. I can’t keep putting it off because I am afraid of being a failure.

Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
I read articles, watch a video and listen to my other half. All have to give me really great advice.

Build a solid client list for Pet Care
It’s coming along, but I put a freeze on new clients this month. There is so much going on that I thought it would be better to love the clients I have and focus on my personal issues.

10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
Easy with a timer…I find myself going over the set timer sometimes.

Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
This is hard. I wrote a blog about how I really don’t have much. I mean I could delete emails. I really don’t know. I am still in the middle of the challenge, but instead, I think I might actually just consider it as getting rid of 460 items rather than a 30-day Challenge.

Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
I have done this, and yes, it has been difficult. I care about him and his wellbeing, and it is equally essential for my daughter’s well-being. She sees everything and absorbs everything. This has to work for her sake.

No clothes buying unless needed
I did not purchase but any clothes in January.

Fix my Teeth ASAP
Step one, completed and I am SO happy. I can eat! I have another appointment on the 9th as a follow-up.

So, this is just a simple post to let you know where I stand in my resolutions. How are you doing?

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30 Day Declutter Challenge – Week 2 – Kind of?

For January, I decided to do the 30-day decluttered challenge. In this challenge, you have 30 days to declutter items from your home. In this challenge, the day of the challenge pairs with the number of items you have to get rid of, so one day 1, you pick one item to get rid of and on day 30, you get rid of thirty pieces. So, in total, you will be getting rid of 460 things.

It has been a journey for me to downsize my material possessions. I’ve been doing it for over two years and still have a lot to go. What I want in my home are items that bring me joy and less work.

The idea was for me to be mindful each week to declutter things that I didn’t need… THIS DID NOT HAPPEN!

I found myself not having a lot of things to discard. It was a real struggle. I practice the one in/one out rule almost intuitively. I had to push myself back and be in the moment of what I was throwing away or donating.

I didn’t give up, but I modified the challenge to fit my requirements and needs. This means for me being mindful of what I discard but also making an effort to set time out of my busy schedule for this challenge.

I did not give up.

Instead, I became the turtle in the race. I am taking my time to finish rather than quickly make decisions that could affect me, in the long run, both emotionally and financially.

So as I had said in the first post, remember to repurpose, donate, sell or recycle your items. The worse thing to do is throw them out because they will end up in a landfill and then it becomes everyone’s problem.

Here are the next seven days of decluttering my apartment:

Day 9:

Declutter Food

Day 10:

Random Items for Declutter

Day 11:

Day 12:

Day 13:

Day 14:

For the most part, the items that I discard are going to be recycled or sold. However, it’s important to note that when you are doing to this type of challenge, that it is also a mindful practice. Please remember that there are many options to get healthily rid of your stuff. You may have a friend who needs a sweater or a homeless person who needs shoes. You may want to sell your favorite dress that you paid way too much money, and you can’t seem to part with it. Maybe the dress will be sold to someone who wants to look good for their big day. It is a much better use of the item rather than sitting in your closet.

Also to remind you that you should have fun with the challenge. If you truly love an item, don’t throw it out for the sake of the challenge or the status quo. This exercise intends to make your home a representation of you and your family.

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2019 – I am Ready and Here is My List!

I decided to list my goals and joy prompts for 2019. I believe I am already working towards these goals, but they are a reminder that I am at the next leave of progress. My joy prompts a list of items that I would like to do. They are there when I feel stuck or want more out of a day, week or month. It is a great reminder just to enjoy life.

Goals for 2019:

  • Four Months of No Spend in 2019
  • Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
  • Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
  • No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
  • No phone for 1 hour in the morning (timers are fantastic)
  • Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12
  • Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
  • Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
  • Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
  • Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
  • Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance) Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
  • Build a solid client list for Pet Care
  • 10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
  • Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
  • Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
  • No clothes buying unless needed
  • Fix my Teeth ASAP

Things To Prompt Joy:

  • Read A Book from Cover to Cover While Marking It Up
  • Game Night
  • Drawing
  • Color in a Book
  • Taking the Ferry
  • Fruit Picking
  • Email A Friend
  • Respond to A Friend
  • Go Horseback Riding
  • Take a Class
  • A weekend away
  • A trip to See Family
  • Love Notes
  • Spend a day taking photos
  • Going to the Movie
  • Seeing the Sunrise
  • Seeing the Sunset
  • Listen to Audible Books (learn a subject)
  • Brush up with Spanish
  • Take care of plants
  • Sit in a coffee shop and read
  • Take A Yoga Class
  • Take a train ride to Upstate NY
  • Family Trip
  • A weekend indoors without worrying about money, work or entertaining
  • Try a new recipe
  • Connect with someone I haven’t been in contact in a while
  • Try a new food
  • Research someone I admire
  • Being Honest
  • Play Roblox while talking to daughter while on the phone
  • Make Sandwiches and Hand Them Out to Homeless People
  • Write Lists
  • Thrift Shopping
  • Hug Someone
  • Dusting
  • Swings
  • Sitting Still
  • Mediation
  • Cooking Dinner
  • Napping
  • A call to my sister
  • Send my grandmother a care package
  • Write a letter to a friend or family member
  • Music and Wine
  • Laundry
  • Being Home Early
  • Smile at the Sun
  • Get a Massage
  • Being Heard
  • Researching Better Business Practices
  • Excel Sheets
  • A new computer
  • Trying Something New
  • Creating a vlog
  • Creating a blog
  • Live life like a marathon (I work better this way)
  • Listen to a podcast
  • Go on a boat ride
  • Destroy a Book
  • Say yes with something I want to do
  • Say No and stick to it
  • Trust My Gut (it seems to work better than my head)
  • No work day
  • Notecards with inspiration
  • Todo list
  • One in / one out Rule
  • Walk Through Central Park
  • Cook a meal with my daughter
  • Doodle
  • Cuddling with Charlotte
  • Think about nothing
  • A quiet space
  • Classic Rock
  • Old Country and Folk Music
  • Showing Gratitude
  • Cleaning a cluttered area
  • Rearranging a space
  • Cookies
  • Work at my own pace
  • Accomplishing a goal
  • Making the bed
  • Exploring a Neighborhood
  • Drinking Water
  • Smoothies
  • Cuddling with a dog
  • Going over a todo list
  • When everyone is happy
  • Spa Day
  • Growing out my Hair
  • No phone days
  • Writing
  • Painting My Nails
  • Doing One Thing at a time
  • Paying Off Debt
  • Brushing a bush with my Hand
  • Setting a Timer
  • Talking to a friend
  • Hearing Laughter
  • Seeing my daughter’s smile
  • Putting on Makeup
  • Getting Dressed-up
  • Having a Lazy Day
  • Skincare Day
  • Showers
  • Lotion
  • The moon
  • Telling Someone why they inspire me
  • Holding the door for someone
  • Giving a little gift to someone
  • Hearing my daughter’s breath
  • Practicing Gratitude
  • Looking up and smiling
  • Cutting Paper
  • Not giving up
  • This is a quick list, and this post is to keep me accountable. What things do you have a plan in 2019?

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Paying Down Debt in 2019

So, my last post for 2018 was one of the hardest things to think about or comprehend constructively. It is that lovely taboo topic called money management and debt.

When I quit my job, I quickly realized how much spending I was doing on a daily basis. The two significant factors were mindlessly spending on little things and just giving my money away because it felt good to help.

Starting my own business made me much more careful about how I was spending my money. So, I am not an expert in finances, and I will never claim to be because there is SO much more I need to learn.

However, in 2018, I did accomplish some goals as I became mindful with my relationship with money. The most significant accomplishment was paying off almost $10,000 in debt. I still have $31,000 left to pay off, but it does feel good to know my debt is going down rather than up. My debt really isn’t on any significant spending but rather a big student loan and medical bills.

For 2019, I am going to try to pay off at least $12,000 in it. I want to finish paying this off because I need to start spending more time with my loved ones. I miss having the ability to take my daughter out. I miss just having time. So, being mindful of my time and spending has hopefully help me with the ability to accomplish these goals.

Here are some approaches that I used in 2018 to help me reduce my working time and also to have the ability to pay things off. I hope to use these same skills to improve my outlook for 2019.

The biggest habit that I acquired in 2018 is making more intentional choices on how I spend my money. I also realized that I have people that I can ask for help whether that was with actual money or with time. I didn’t understand how closed off I had made myself until I needed help on the one thing I prided myself in doing.

The first thing I realized is that easy shopping was not my friend. These small purchases were too often and collectively impacting my life. There was a lot of mindless spending on a daily basis that indeed was inhibiting me from paying off my debt. I took for granted my “fixed” income and my “fixed” payments and used the rest of my money without overthinking on its impact.

I would tell myself that I wanted to save $200 at the end of the month, but when the month ended, I had zero money in my bank account. It didn’t take long for me to see that that was not a sustainable way of living. I wasn’t reaching any of my goals. I wasn’t happy with my spending habits.

I started embracing my reality and intention that I still was avoiding. It was easy for me to donate or sell my belongings, but it was harder not to replace them. I started to do small shopping bans like staying off of Amazon or only spending what I had in my wallet for a day, week or month. These little gestures really helped to have enough money to pay my bills.

For 2019, I really want to align my finance actions with my real value. This starts with having a conversation and writing about my intentions. My husband knows my plans and having someone who is understanding to your needs is excellent. I have no problem asking questions about money and researching about how to save. I thank him for that gift.

After realizing how I was spending and being comfortable with the idea of money. I started to take stock of the big money picture. I think that’s one of the scariest parts of personal finance and it has taken me a while to comprehend. I still continue to struggle with acknowledging the state of my money flow without judgment. I just know you have to start and I do see that I am getting better with paying attention to my spending and income. It only takes time and understanding that it’s not going to be perfect and it will never be perfect.

For me taking stock means logging into all of my accounts and writing down what the balances, both the positive or negative. The big picture is not about feeling good or bad about your situation. It’s especially hard if it’s a negative experience to log in and seeing all the negatives and zero numbers, but it’s not about just looking at the numbers. It’s looking at all the different accounts that you have and making peace with your current situation.

You just have to review it. When I took stock of all the accounts that I have, the next thing I thought of is what can I get rid of to save money. It’s not just about paying off debt right away, but how many accounts or subscriptions do you have that you don’t even use.

I try to have as few accounts as possible. I’m all for whatever works for you, but I think it’s easier to have fewer accounts. It makes my life more straightforward in my budgeting process. It’s just fewer things to track or to manage. It makes sense for me and my time and to not get overwhelmed by so much information that I am just trying to comprehend for the first time.

One of the biggest mistakes I make and guilty of so many times this year is mindlessly spending without keeping track of where my dollars are going. I know that this isn’t the most fun topic or the most fun task to think about but tracking my spending is essential. Not only does it open my eyes to my behavior with money but it gives me a small moment to check in to see if it aligns with my intention.

I do weekly check-ins. I look at all of the numbers and ask myself does it align with my goals and my value. If not, I ask what I can do for next week and really understand why I didn’t meet these goals. Keep things simple when doing this type of check-in and have it fit your daily flow. I do it Monday morning. I make coffee, I sit down, and I log into all of my accounts. I track my spending and then I double check all the balances on my accounts.

There are things you can do if you’re unhappy with what is happening to your accounts and cash flow. It helps me stay focus by taking small steps and trying to figure out what my goal is for the following week. I find I am slowly changing my mindset from I am “ok” to know precisely what I need to know about my finance and it feels good to see the progress that aligns with what I really want.

One of my favorite things about personal finance is that it’s personalized to you, so everyone’s numbers and decisions are going to look different. There is no judgment in that it’s just figuring out what makes you happiest what you’re okay with spending money on and then getting rid of everything else.

The things I spend money on I try to make sure those expenditures align with my values. The biggest question I ask myself and my final tip is before you make a purchase or pay off a bill, ask when or not it is worth your time to invest. After my basic needs are met, time is the most valuable resource.

I keep this question as a fundamental practice when making any decisions of spending. “Do I actually want to spend money on this item and it is worth my time to pay it off? “

I hope this makes some kind of sense to you. Again, I am new to understanding money, so if you have any advice, please share. I would love for all of us to pay down debt and live a more fruitful life in 2019.

Happy New Years!

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