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“Stop being a Jerk!”

No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” yet, it could not strike me at all to see that some of my friends and family believe my emotions are self-serving. Furthermore to be clear, getting emotional does cause me to do some pretty self-centered things at the name of self-care. Then to those people who believe my emotion is selfish, I get it.

Really, I do.

The situation is, my emotions are uncertain, so sometimes I’m somewhat unpredictable. There’s not more I can do about this. I can’t just plan my anxiety attacks ahead of time. Oh, sometimes managing my emotions means canceling plans last minute so I will stay home and concentrate on my breathing. Sometimes it means dropping out with my friends. I would rather instead virtually observe and like photos. I totally can’t speak to them when I am way too anxious.

While I ultimately see how someone might believe my emotion is merely an excuse to be a flaky jerk, it’s really not. I’ve realized that I can be sort of flaky sometimes. Yes, I don’t attend functions and would rather avoid your text on an invitation than confront the fact that I will disappoint you. I mean I am literally worried about everything at that point. I am too worried to understand that not saying anything is worse than a saying, “no.”

This is rude as hell, but on these times that my emotions are out of power, it’s not at all unusual for me to withdraw any and all plans to interact with other humans. There are moments when my mind is trying very hard to defend me by getting me to accept the worst possible consequences for my actions, which sometimes only leads me to get more emotional than I had been in the first place.

Let me be clear: No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” However, every day, I feel like this, and it doesn’t go away. I have learned to accept it and clear out some of the mental clutter, but when an attack happens I want to scream to my anxiety, “Why are you taking this away from my loved ones and me? I want to feel and experience!”

“Stop being a Jerk!”

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HOW MINIMALISM FEED THE MIND AND SOUL?

Minimalism refers to having fewer possessions in life whereas minimalism for the mind and soul relate to owning less but having satisfactory in living. It is not only about having fewer things but having more meaning in our life.

Simplicity or clarity is a direction starting from soul to the heart, body, mind, and our home or it is vice versa. Our deepest secrets, thoughts, feelings, and choices are hidden deep inside our soul.

To achieve simplicity, one needs to do things that nurture the soul. Here are some of the ways that help:

It generates choices
Through minimalism, we accept the things that matter to us and ignore those who veer us away from our purposes.

Creates the place for space
Every single bit of us needs some space from the world for “me” time that soothes the soul and mind.

Minimalism disengages additional pressure
A cured soul needs no one to influence. A restored soul is content with the less and has no interest in having more.

Minimalism helps to untangles everything
With less pressure, in our minds, in our homes, we can handle almost everything that comes our way. It makes our mind productive by focusing on the things that matter.

Shows our true self
The most important reason for including minimalism in our lives is that it shows our true self. It makes us look through our soul. We could see our goals, our value, our capabilities, our flaws with understandable clarity and accepting ourselves the way we are.

Stimulates creativity
Eliminating all that is preventing you to focus on the real intentions will help you take a closer step towards creativity and will expand your imagination.

Decluttered mind
With fewer things in the ownership, you will be able to pay attention more on contentment. Your mind will have less to concentrate.

Assessing minimalism
It helps you understand why do we have certain possessions and why we don’t. It helps in evaluating the things we need the most and the things that aren’t that useful for our mind and soul.

Start living a simple life. There is no right time to start anything that causes positive changes in a person’s life. What are ways you can help mend your soul?

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Simple Reasons to Why I Practice Yoga

One thing that people don’t know about me is that I once was certified for Yoga teaching. I love yoga. It truly helps me align and reminds me of how to I am connecting to the world and my being. It aligns my heart in my mind to help to draw all of my soul’s passions.

Here are my three reasons for loving yoga as a daily practice.

The first reason is that it challenges me both physically and emotionally. I feel inwardly energetic. This allows building strength both physically and mentally which helps to build flexibility; it makes mobility in my present to help guide me to a better future.

The second reason, it helps me to develop self-awareness. It connects me to mental awareness of my emotional stability and spiritual communication. My mind grows to have the ability to have self-awareness. It allows me to be opened to self-discovery, self-exploration, self-love and to have compassion for self-forgiveness. These types of self-reflections all happen on my yoga mat. It really does help to keep me grounded and eases me to stable homeostasis.

The third reason is merely feeling the connection to me. It allows me to grant myself progression to recognize and explore relationships with other people. We are all a part of one earth, and with everything on it, we share our energy with one another. If I feel content, that feeling can be pass to another person who may feel discontent.

It’s your journey. When your reasons to practice yoga might be different than mine. I would love to know your intention to why your practice yoga or why want to start your yoga practice.

I hope you have a beautiful day.

namaste

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Three Ways to Declutter Your Mind

In our insane and restless living that we call life, it is necessary to recognize some time to declutter your mind. A clear mind is just as important as a clean home. The better awareness we have of ourselves, the better our relationship with the universe will be for us.

I am not an expert in the matter, but my anxiety and depression can leave me in a cluster-F of words and understanding that have no significant meaning. Here are three things that I do to help with the mental declutter so I can focus on my tasks and simple get through my days.

One: Journal
Taking the time to journal every day has thoughtfully presented a significant difference in my life. I used it in the morning, night or whenever I just feel stuck.

In the morning, I have made it part of my routine to pause and record appreciation of the world or events around me. I write down affirmations and say them in my prayers. By just getting
everything that’s in my mind out on paper makes those appreciative moments seem real. It also helps when I am feeling low. When I have the motivation to look at the prior gratitudes, I can see that I am content with things and I can get to that moment of contentment again.

Two: Meditation
Being able to pause and take time just to be mindful allows me to slow down and pull away from the stress. I can just breathe. It can make a big difference in my perspective. I like to use guided meditations that I can easily find on YouTube. I also want to stare at a wall or at someone’s shoes on the subway and do a mental swipe left and right to help catch up with the fast pace of life.

Just taking a moment to slow down your breath can be so satisfying when we get so wrapped up from going to task to task and activity to activity.

Three: Walking
Getting out and taking a walk has been an invaluable means for me to reconnect, reset and pull away from the craziness of the world. I leave my cellphone home or in my bag and take in nature and the events happening around me. For me, this activity is so simple to do but can really get my our of my head in a matter of minutes.

These are three simple ideas on how I try to declutter my mind. I hope you use them in your practice and hopefully find them useful. If you have any suggestions or tactics you use to help clear your head, just let me know.

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THE ART OF SELF- ACCEPTANCE

Self-acceptance means loving and being happy with yourself. It is an essential key to happiness which helps in maintaining good mental health. It helps us to realize our weak and strong points. A person who has a command over self-acceptance is the delighted soul and has a distinctive comprehension of one. It offers an idea of loving yourself despite all the flaws and knowing that no one can be perfect, but there is always room for improvement. It is an essential step towards development for the reason that only a person who is completely honest with himself can achieve greater things in life.

SIGNIFICANCE OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE:

It’s imperative to believe in yourself. One who has not learned the craft of being happy with oneself might be going through the points mentioned below:

Self-esteem: knowing your value and capabilities is referred to as self-respect. Not understanding and valuing your abilities cause low self-esteem

Live a lie: Not being happy with yourself will cause you to lead a life that you do not want because you pretend to be something or someone you are not and because of that you live in a deceptive life

Depression: it is a disorder that is widely spreading in the world. Since someone who is not happy with herself has to look for satisfaction from the people around her. But in this modern age, no one makes an effort to be compassionate towards other beings causes people with no self-acceptance to fall into depression

Becoming an easy target: Someone with no self-respect looks for happiness and love from the people surrounded by her. Therefore, she will try to do whatever she is told to do which may cause her to turn into a target for others.’

SELF-ACCEPTANCE SHOWS THE REAL SIDE OF YOU:

It is never too late to realize your mistakes and take responsibilities for them. Allowing yourself and cultivating through your personality and inner self will provide you the reason for your happiness. You will learn to understand what makes you happy and what doesn’t. Building a life with self-confidence will help you to interpret the challenges in your life and will help you to control them. Only a person who knows herself genuinely and is contented with the way she is can be at ease with people and feel good about herself. Accepting yourself helps the world receive and respect you for who you are. This way, we can achieve our faithful belongings where we show our genuine and raw selves to the world, and it can never be more significant than our level of self-acceptance.

STEPS TAKEN TO ENHANCE YOUR SELF-ACCEPTANCE:

  • Know who you are – dig deep into your soul that includes your personality, your background and what makes you happy.
  • Know that strengths and weaknesses are also a part of someone’s identity and do not be ashamed of them. Own them and try to enhance your powers whereas improving your weaknesses.
  • Admit your faults and try to make a positive change into them.
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Plastic Straws, What’s the Hype and Why?

Starbucks says by 2020 it will eliminate plastic straws, turning to biodegradable straws and a newly designed lid. These new lids are made from polypropylene that can be recycled. The issue I see is would this not produce more plastic into the environment? Like the idea of reducing plastic straws, it is a thought, it is an action, it is a conversation to the bigger picture of conserving our environment.

So why are plastic straws bad for the environment?

Society has an over-reliance on single-use plastics, and the fact is that a lot of the stuff is ending up in our marine environment.

In one 2017 international coastal cleanup, 643,000 plastic straws were picked up around beaches and waterways all over the world. Straws only make up a fraction of our plastic waste. However, it is the easiest thing we can change now. It opens the door to understanding the impact of plastic, and it impacts on the environment.

All plastics ultimately sort of break down and fracture into smaller and smaller bits of plastic as a result of being tossed around by the waves, and the sunlight basically makes the plastic brittle. It creates what we call microplastics.

Microplastics are found on everything from the forage fish that are at the base of the food web up through the kinds of fish that we end up putting on our dinner plate.

Americans use an average of 1.6 straws per person per day that translates into 7.5 billion straws year. By the year 2050, there will be more plastic than fish in the ocean. It takes 500 years for a single straw to decompose. In that time the plastic could potentially leak pollutants into the soil and water. Every year an estimated 8 million metric tons of plastic go into our oceans, and it’s harming wildlife.

We need to be more thoughtful about how we use plastic. For starters pay closer attention to your personal practices. Get into the habit of carrying your own cup, fork, bag, and straw. That’s what I have in my bag at all times.

Decisions to make environmental friendly items or not use environmentally harmful pieces can make a positive impact. So, though the one straw may not make a real impact, the decision you make to not to use straws will change the awareness to the environment and how much a carbon footprint you leave behind.

Resources:
Business Insider, “Why Plastic Sucks,” https://www.businessinsider.com/why-plastic-straws-suck-ocean-pollution-sea-turtle-starbucks-2018-7

Ocean Conservatory: https://oceanconservancy.org/trash-free-seas/international-coastal-cleanup/volunteer/

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What I ate for dinner this week

I am not a chef, but I like to make food. I love being able to sit with my family and have a moment to regroup, talk or even watch a movie. It’s the family time in my home. I feel like the outside world is on hold while I enjoy my moments with the people I love.

Sometimes I eat quite a unique blends of foods and spices. I’d instead do that then let food go to waste. It also sparks creativity in me when the world can be so cold. These are the best thing about dinners for me.

What about you?

Penne Pasta with Pesto Tomato Sauce
Roasted Chicken with Carrots and Quinoa
Sausage and Peppers with White Rice
Potato Soup (Minus Liquid — I know, I hate soup though) with Garlic Bread
Stuffed Zucchini with White Rice
Greek Salad Mixed with other salad stuff and French Fries
Penne Pasta with Broccoli and Chicken