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Here is a Question: Why minimalism?

A question that seems to have become repetitive to me since I’ve turned to a minimalist lifestyle has been, why minimalism?

Such a question is only natural when others recognize the fact that you’re straying from the physical development of society and stepping away from conventional views in buying and owning objects.

Before I answer the question, why minimalism. Let’s first determine what specifically minimalism is really about. It’s a reassessment of your priorities so that you can strip away the excess material. Contrary to what many people may believe minimalism is, it is not solely about getting rid of your possessions. It’s also about reassessing your life and the things in it such as ideas, relationships, activities, and possessions. It’s looking at reducing those things that do not hold any priority. I believe minimalism is about becoming more intentional with both my belongings and all the different aspects of my life.

Here are a few of the reasons why I chose to embrace a minimalist lifestyle.

  • I’ve decided I want to be more selective about the things that I bring into my life.
  • My mind was scattered all over the place, and I can never seem to focus on one thing at a time.
  • My apartment was getting filled up with clutter. I was getting sick and tired of having to look at it and deal with the disorder every day.

It just made sense for me at the time to look into minimalist living. I’m living in a studio apartment, so I already didn’t have many things. The things that I did have was just an accumulation of miscellany in clutter that I’ve just accumulated over the years.

I understand that for the majority of people, this is not a sensible thing to consider. You may not be able to pack up everything and get rid of it all at once. I suggest for you is to really analyzing what you do need and what you can probably live without and go from there. Little by little, just getting rid of things until you finally feel like you’re in a point that you are content.

Although minimalism may not be for everybody. I’m glad that I’ve chosen to implement it into my life because the benefits it brings me never seemed to cease. My mind is clearer. I spend less money. I use my time on only the
things that bring me value. It just makes sense to me to live this lifestyle.

I know that it’s easy to say “do it,” but even small actions can add up. I hope you found this helpful. I would love to know what you do or how you feel about your practice into minimalism.

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“Stop being a Jerk!”

No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” yet, it could not strike me at all to see that some of my friends and family believe my emotions are self-serving. Furthermore to be clear, getting emotional does cause me to do some pretty self-centered things at the name of self-care. Then to those people who believe my emotion is selfish, I get it.

Really, I do.

The situation is, my emotions are uncertain, so sometimes I’m somewhat unpredictable. There’s not more I can do about this. I can’t just plan my anxiety attacks ahead of time. Oh, sometimes managing my emotions means canceling plans last minute so I will stay home and concentrate on my breathing. Sometimes it means dropping out with my friends. I would rather instead virtually observe and like photos. I totally can’t speak to them when I am way too anxious.

While I ultimately see how someone might believe my emotion is merely an excuse to be a flaky jerk, it’s really not. I’ve realized that I can be sort of flaky sometimes. Yes, I don’t attend functions and would rather avoid your text on an invitation than confront the fact that I will disappoint you. I mean I am literally worried about everything at that point. I am too worried to understand that not saying anything is worse than a saying, “no.”

This is rude as hell, but on these times that my emotions are out of power, it’s not at all unusual for me to withdraw any and all plans to interact with other humans. There are moments when my mind is trying very hard to defend me by getting me to accept the worst possible consequences for my actions, which sometimes only leads me to get more emotional than I had been in the first place.

Let me be clear: No one has ever really said to me, “ Hey, I believe the emotion is self-serving. You jerk. ” However, every day, I feel like this, and it doesn’t go away. I have learned to accept it and clear out some of the mental clutter, but when an attack happens I want to scream to my anxiety, “Why are you taking this away from my loved ones and me? I want to feel and experience!”

“Stop being a Jerk!”

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HOW MINIMALISM FEED THE MIND AND SOUL?

Minimalism refers to having fewer possessions in life whereas minimalism for the mind and soul relate to owning less but having satisfactory in living. It is not only about having fewer things but having more meaning in our life.

Simplicity or clarity is a direction starting from soul to the heart, body, mind, and our home or it is vice versa. Our deepest secrets, thoughts, feelings, and choices are hidden deep inside our soul.

To achieve simplicity, one needs to do things that nurture the soul. Here are some of the ways that help:

It generates choices
Through minimalism, we accept the things that matter to us and ignore those who veer us away from our purposes.

Creates the place for space
Every single bit of us needs some space from the world for “me” time that soothes the soul and mind.

Minimalism disengages additional pressure
A cured soul needs no one to influence. A restored soul is content with the less and has no interest in having more.

Minimalism helps to untangles everything
With less pressure, in our minds, in our homes, we can handle almost everything that comes our way. It makes our mind productive by focusing on the things that matter.

Shows our true self
The most important reason for including minimalism in our lives is that it shows our true self. It makes us look through our soul. We could see our goals, our value, our capabilities, our flaws with understandable clarity and accepting ourselves the way we are.

Stimulates creativity
Eliminating all that is preventing you to focus on the real intentions will help you take a closer step towards creativity and will expand your imagination.

Decluttered mind
With fewer things in the ownership, you will be able to pay attention more on contentment. Your mind will have less to concentrate.

Assessing minimalism
It helps you understand why do we have certain possessions and why we don’t. It helps in evaluating the things we need the most and the things that aren’t that useful for our mind and soul.

Start living a simple life. There is no right time to start anything that causes positive changes in a person’s life. What are ways you can help mend your soul?

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What I ate for dinner this week

I am not a chef, but I like to make food. I love being able to sit with my family and have a moment to regroup, talk or even watch a movie. It’s the family time in my home. I feel like the outside world is on hold while I enjoy my moments with the people I love.

Sometimes I eat quite a unique blends of foods and spices. I’d instead do that then let food go to waste. It also sparks creativity in me when the world can be so cold. These are the best thing about dinners for me.

What about you?

Penne Pasta with Pesto Tomato Sauce
Roasted Chicken with Carrots and Quinoa
Sausage and Peppers with White Rice
Potato Soup (Minus Liquid — I know, I hate soup though) with Garlic Bread
Stuffed Zucchini with White Rice
Greek Salad Mixed with other salad stuff and French Fries
Penne Pasta with Broccoli and Chicken

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Burnout! Tips to Deal or Prevent Homeschool Burnout.

The beginning of the year has been horrible. Our weather here in Brooklyn was too cold or rainy. This means that I can’t take, my daughter outside and I find myself in a funk. I am burnt out.

She doesn’t want to work, or I mess up and over schedule. We have burnouts or meltdowns every other day, especially at the beginning of the journey with homeschooling. It can be so frustrating when you are the parent and teacher too!

I hаvе learned a few tips аnd wауѕ tо prevent burnt out frоm hоmеѕсhооlіng уоur сhіld.

Do mоrе hands-on lеаrnіng
Thоѕе еxреrіmеntѕ, nоw іѕ a great time to do thеm! Not only will it bе fun fоr your child and a grеаt change of расе for them аnd you but you’ll аlѕо bе rеvіеwіng рrеvіоuѕ mаtеrіаl аt thе same tіmе.

Gеt оutѕіdе or Coffee Shop
Pасk uр thе bооkѕ аnd move thе learning somewhere else. Our local library is oddly always packed. It’s too cold to be outside for a long time, so we go to a coffee shop. I particularly like the ones for soft music and cozy couches. It feels quite engaging to sit together and to talk or do some reading. It’s a good bonding experience.

Gеt mоvіng
Find activities that actually move your body. Sitting home all day doesn’t help anyone. The cold can make it impossible actually to go outside, so find ways to be physical indoor. For instance, my daughter goes to yoga and dance classes. We also practice yoga or fun exercises throughout the day. Especially, if the subject matter is complicated. Who wouldn’t want to wiggle it off? Dоn’t forget to mоvе with them. It’ѕ a grеаt way tо get some physical activity fоr yourself tоо!

Tаkе ѕоmе me time fоr уоurѕеlf
When I ѕtаrt to fееl burnt out, mу сhіld рісkѕ uр on thаt quickly. I hаvе lеаrnеd thаt thе bеѕt thіng thаt I саn do as a mоm аnd a homeschooler іѕ to take a little time and do ѕоmеthіng I enjoy. I tаkе an hour аnd rеаd, do my nails, write a blog post or wаtсh an іnѕріrаtіоnаl ѕеrmоn. It wіll hеlр уоu to feel better so thаt уоu can finish those lаѕt fеw items on your list. Your child also sees how to handle stress and time management through passive learning.

Fіеld Trірѕ
Now, it’s the реrfесt time to take a few fіеld trірѕ аѕ іt will gіvе уоu аnd kids a muсh-nееdеd break frоm уоur dаіlу routine аnd will deliver a lоt of fun learning that your сhіld wіll rеmеmbеr fоrеvеr. If we’re not taking care of ourselves, we cannot take care of our kids. We are not taking care of ourselves; we cannot homeschool effectively. We’re going to be homeschooling on negligence because we are burned out. If you are facing homeschool burnout, I hope these things helped you get inspired.

If you home school, let me know of some ways that you help you and your child from burning out.

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I hate being the “mean” parent.

This blog is just a free following piece about my day and feelings. I am sure it will be riddled with a ton of grammar mistakes, but that is my natural state of being. I am completely imperfect.

Homeschooling is rough. You have to separate yourself as a parent versus a teacher. Some days are good, and things get done, but then there are days that my child refuses to do work. What do I do then? Send her to her room?

What frustrates the most about this is that I am co-parenting and her father will jump on the opportunity not to work because getting up in the morning is triumph over the day. She doesn’t get much disciplines there, so I am still the weight in the world for which rest on her shoulders. She knows she only has to deal with me for a little while before she returns to the haven of a father. I hate my role very much. I am always dismissed in this dynamic because that’s the way it has been since being with her dad.

So, homeschooling…I wanted to homeschool her because I felt it would allow me to spend time with her. She can see what “healthy” way of life instead of the negative side. She had a horrible teacher this year. The teacher only had five students yet couldn’t get her act together to be personable with the students or make any connection. She didn’t even bother to know my name. When confronted, she blamed the kids and my daughter. She is the teacher. Do not make it the fault of children. Even when they annoy you, they need to learn from you how to handle the situation. So, here I am the teacher and parent.

I am still learning, and it is not easy. I want to teach the word of God and also give her the curriculum I know she is capable of doing. The issue is that we are so new to these roles that there are misfires. I either get mad because she refuses to work or she refuses to work and ask to go to Daddy’s home. I try hard not to add my feelings and thoughts to the situation, but it is very hard.

I hate being the “mean” parent.

So, I am done ranting.

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Resolution 2019 – February Update

Now that January is over, I thought it would be best to see if I am still making progress with my many resolutions. I know I have a lot, but I have a lot to change. I think going forward, I may write a post to keep me accountable for the list. So, here we go:

Check-in for Goals for 2019:

Four Months of No Spend in 2019
Not yet, but January I saw a dramatic decrease in my spending. Unfortunately, I had some personal issues at the end of the month that cause me to spend what I saved. I guess I am grateful for the savings as I would not have it otherwise.

February will probably be more of mindful spending and consuming. I am just asking myself those child-like questions, “Do you really need it? Can it wait? Why do you need it.”

Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
This actually happened because I sent him my list. I think I was trapped in doing things rather than thinking of actions and I was a complete mess in December. I was very closed off and was dealing with mental health issues. He made it a point to take, and from that, we were able to solve and restart some plans that became wayward in my mind.

Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
I know this sound like a silly goal, but I literally worked like every day last year. Much like spending time with everyone else, I didn’t feel complete and insecure enough to show her myself.

So, the beginning of the year was rough because I really didn’t have the time. I took off in December to deal with issues.

However, because I can set my hours and she had a HORRIBLE teacher this year. We decided to pull her from school and home school her. It is a scary thing to be in charge of your kid’s lessons, but last week was magical. She wanted to hang on me and talk to me. We were bonding, it was a very positive experience.

No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
Yes, I slipped a couple of times, but for the most part, I been making this resolution. It feels great to take a break from the cyber life that we all create.

I actually didn’t spend much time on any social media. I didn’t have time, because I wanted to focus on these resolutions and my challenges. I am posting more on Instagram, but the pictures are always real. I much rather have two followers on IG than 2,000,000 followers and be pressured to live an artificial life.

No phone for 1 hour in the morning
Not so good at the moment. I started strong but my work is weird, and I get calls and text as soon as I wake up. I have been good at not going on social media for at least an hour, but the no phone rule is pretty tricky for me to do every day. I am still trying tactics to get at least a month to no phone in the morning.

Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12am
This has been the most comfortable resolution. Now, I get tired at 11pm!!!! I have a feeling no social media before bed is helping this goal. I also have set two timers. One at 10:30PM to remind me to get ready and one at 11PM to get ready for sleep. It’s been amazing, and I am really proud of myself with this goal.

Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
I started out loud, but then life happens. I haven’t touched this for at least ten days. I am not taking it as a bad thing because the pages are not going anywhere. I think I am going to change it to write three sentences a day. It was my old rule, and it seems to work well as a prompt. I will let you know how it goes in February.

Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
With arduous work and support, I have paid $1500 this month 🙂

Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
This is actually a lot easier when there is no social media presence. You are kind of forced to talk to each other. It’s almost like the bad habits I was picking up came from my desire to be perfect like my friends and influencers. We talk to together. I love it.

Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
I have done this goal, and sometimes it is SO HARD to accomplish! I am not a social person. I don’t even know how to start a conversation. Luckily, the few people in my life are amazing and understand my limitation and for now are OK with texting and the occasional GIF.

Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance)
I have, but not really. January was a hectic month. In February, I am going to really work on my pet store. I need money, and that has to be my focus. I can’t keep putting it off because I am afraid of being a failure.

Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
I read articles, watch a video and listen to my other half. All have to give me really great advice.

Build a solid client list for Pet Care
It’s coming along, but I put a freeze on new clients this month. There is so much going on that I thought it would be better to love the clients I have and focus on my personal issues.

10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
Easy with a timer…I find myself going over the set timer sometimes.

Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
This is hard. I wrote a blog about how I really don’t have much. I mean I could delete emails. I really don’t know. I am still in the middle of the challenge, but instead, I think I might actually just consider it as getting rid of 460 items rather than a 30-day Challenge.

Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
I have done this, and yes, it has been difficult. I care about him and his wellbeing, and it is equally essential for my daughter’s well-being. She sees everything and absorbs everything. This has to work for her sake.

No clothes buying unless needed
I did not purchase but any clothes in January.

Fix my Teeth ASAP
Step one, completed and I am SO happy. I can eat! I have another appointment on the 9th as a follow-up.

So, this is just a simple post to let you know where I stand in my resolutions. How are you doing?

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