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Burnout! Tips to Deal or Prevent Homeschool Burnout.

The beginning of the year has been horrible. Our weather here in Brooklyn was too cold or rainy. This means that I can’t take, my daughter outside and I find myself in a funk. I am burnt out.

She doesn’t want to work, or I mess up and over schedule. We have burnouts or meltdowns every other day, especially at the beginning of the journey with homeschooling. It can be so frustrating when you are the parent and teacher too!

I hаvе learned a few tips аnd wауѕ tо prevent burnt out frоm hоmеѕсhооlіng уоur сhіld.

Do mоrе hands-on lеаrnіng
Thоѕе еxреrіmеntѕ, nоw іѕ a great time to do thеm! Not only will it bе fun fоr your child and a grеаt change of расе for them аnd you but you’ll аlѕо bе rеvіеwіng рrеvіоuѕ mаtеrіаl аt thе same tіmе.

Gеt оutѕіdе or Coffee Shop
Pасk uр thе bооkѕ аnd move thе learning somewhere else. Our local library is oddly always packed. It’s too cold to be outside for a long time, so we go to a coffee shop. I particularly like the ones for soft music and cozy couches. It feels quite engaging to sit together and to talk or do some reading. It’s a good bonding experience.

Gеt mоvіng
Find activities that actually move your body. Sitting home all day doesn’t help anyone. The cold can make it impossible actually to go outside, so find ways to be physical indoor. For instance, my daughter goes to yoga and dance classes. We also practice yoga or fun exercises throughout the day. Especially, if the subject matter is complicated. Who wouldn’t want to wiggle it off? Dоn’t forget to mоvе with them. It’ѕ a grеаt way tо get some physical activity fоr yourself tоо!

Tаkе ѕоmе me time fоr уоurѕеlf
When I ѕtаrt to fееl burnt out, mу сhіld рісkѕ uр on thаt quickly. I hаvе lеаrnеd thаt thе bеѕt thіng thаt I саn do as a mоm аnd a homeschooler іѕ to take a little time and do ѕоmеthіng I enjoy. I tаkе an hour аnd rеаd, do my nails, write a blog post or wаtсh an іnѕріrаtіоnаl ѕеrmоn. It wіll hеlр уоu to feel better so thаt уоu can finish those lаѕt fеw items on your list. Your child also sees how to handle stress and time management through passive learning.

Fіеld Trірѕ
Now, it’s the реrfесt time to take a few fіеld trірѕ аѕ іt will gіvе уоu аnd kids a muсh-nееdеd break frоm уоur dаіlу routine аnd will deliver a lоt of fun learning that your сhіld wіll rеmеmbеr fоrеvеr. If we’re not taking care of ourselves, we cannot take care of our kids. We are not taking care of ourselves; we cannot homeschool effectively. We’re going to be homeschooling on negligence because we are burned out. If you are facing homeschool burnout, I hope these things helped you get inspired.

If you home school, let me know of some ways that you help you and your child from burning out.

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I hate being the “mean” parent.

This blog is just a free following piece about my day and feelings. I am sure it will be riddled with a ton of grammar mistakes, but that is my natural state of being. I am completely imperfect.

Homeschooling is rough. You have to separate yourself as a parent versus a teacher. Some days are good, and things get done, but then there are days that my child refuses to do work. What do I do then? Send her to her room?

What frustrates the most about this is that I am co-parenting and her father will jump on the opportunity not to work because getting up in the morning is triumph over the day. She doesn’t get much disciplines there, so I am still the weight in the world for which rest on her shoulders. She knows she only has to deal with me for a little while before she returns to the haven of a father. I hate my role very much. I am always dismissed in this dynamic because that’s the way it has been since being with her dad.

So, homeschooling…I wanted to homeschool her because I felt it would allow me to spend time with her. She can see what “healthy” way of life instead of the negative side. She had a horrible teacher this year. The teacher only had five students yet couldn’t get her act together to be personable with the students or make any connection. She didn’t even bother to know my name. When confronted, she blamed the kids and my daughter. She is the teacher. Do not make it the fault of children. Even when they annoy you, they need to learn from you how to handle the situation. So, here I am the teacher and parent.

I am still learning, and it is not easy. I want to teach the word of God and also give her the curriculum I know she is capable of doing. The issue is that we are so new to these roles that there are misfires. I either get mad because she refuses to work or she refuses to work and ask to go to Daddy’s home. I try hard not to add my feelings and thoughts to the situation, but it is very hard.

I hate being the “mean” parent.

So, I am done ranting.

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Resolution 2019 – February Update

Now that January is over, I thought it would be best to see if I am still making progress with my many resolutions. I know I have a lot, but I have a lot to change. I think going forward, I may write a post to keep me accountable for the list. So, here we go:

Check-in for Goals for 2019:

Four Months of No Spend in 2019
Not yet, but January I saw a dramatic decrease in my spending. Unfortunately, I had some personal issues at the end of the month that cause me to spend what I saved. I guess I am grateful for the savings as I would not have it otherwise.

February will probably be more of mindful spending and consuming. I am just asking myself those child-like questions, “Do you really need it? Can it wait? Why do you need it.”

Monthly Check-In with Hubby (Goals to Actually Work Together)
This actually happened because I sent him my list. I think I was trapped in doing things rather than thinking of actions and I was a complete mess in December. I was very closed off and was dealing with mental health issues. He made it a point to take, and from that, we were able to solve and restart some plans that became wayward in my mind.

Spend at least 1 whole day per week with my daughter
I know this sound like a silly goal, but I literally worked like every day last year. Much like spending time with everyone else, I didn’t feel complete and insecure enough to show her myself.

So, the beginning of the year was rough because I really didn’t have the time. I took off in December to deal with issues.

However, because I can set my hours and she had a HORRIBLE teacher this year. We decided to pull her from school and home school her. It is a scary thing to be in charge of your kid’s lessons, but last week was magical. She wanted to hang on me and talk to me. We were bonding, it was a very positive experience.

No social media 30 minutes before bed (alarms work great)
Yes, I slipped a couple of times, but for the most part, I been making this resolution. It feels great to take a break from the cyber life that we all create.

I actually didn’t spend much time on any social media. I didn’t have time, because I wanted to focus on these resolutions and my challenges. I am posting more on Instagram, but the pictures are always real. I much rather have two followers on IG than 2,000,000 followers and be pressured to live an artificial life.

No phone for 1 hour in the morning
Not so good at the moment. I started strong but my work is weird, and I get calls and text as soon as I wake up. I have been good at not going on social media for at least an hour, but the no phone rule is pretty tricky for me to do every day. I am still trying tactics to get at least a month to no phone in the morning.

Be in bed at 11pm, Lights out by 12am
This has been the most comfortable resolution. Now, I get tired at 11pm!!!! I have a feeling no social media before bed is helping this goal. I also have set two timers. One at 10:30PM to remind me to get ready and one at 11PM to get ready for sleep. It’s been amazing, and I am really proud of myself with this goal.

Journal for Ten Minutes Each Day
I started out loud, but then life happens. I haven’t touched this for at least ten days. I am not taking it as a bad thing because the pages are not going anywhere. I think I am going to change it to write three sentences a day. It was my old rule, and it seems to work well as a prompt. I will let you know how it goes in February.

Pay at $12,000 off (interest is too high)
With arduous work and support, I have paid $1500 this month 🙂

Spend 1 night with my husband a week (No Interruptions)
This is actually a lot easier when there is no social media presence. You are kind of forced to talk to each other. It’s almost like the bad habits I was picking up came from my desire to be perfect like my friends and influencers. We talk to together. I love it.

Call, Email, Text, or Meet at least one person per day
I have done this goal, and sometimes it is SO HARD to accomplish! I am not a social person. I don’t even know how to start a conversation. Luckily, the few people in my life are amazing and understand my limitation and for now are OK with texting and the occasional GIF.

Try to find ways to work online (shop, blog, freelance)
I have, but not really. January was a hectic month. In February, I am going to really work on my pet store. I need money, and that has to be my focus. I can’t keep putting it off because I am afraid of being a failure.

Continue and Research ways to make money in a smart way
I read articles, watch a video and listen to my other half. All have to give me really great advice.

Build a solid client list for Pet Care
It’s coming along, but I put a freeze on new clients this month. There is so much going on that I thought it would be better to love the clients I have and focus on my personal issues.

10 minutes of Cleaning each Morning
Easy with a timer…I find myself going over the set timer sometimes.

Complete Two: 30-day Declutter Challenge
This is hard. I wrote a blog about how I really don’t have much. I mean I could delete emails. I really don’t know. I am still in the middle of the challenge, but instead, I think I might actually just consider it as getting rid of 460 items rather than a 30-day Challenge.

Check in with Ex at least once a week about my daughter and discuss any challenges
I have done this, and yes, it has been difficult. I care about him and his wellbeing, and it is equally essential for my daughter’s well-being. She sees everything and absorbs everything. This has to work for her sake.

No clothes buying unless needed
I did not purchase but any clothes in January.

Fix my Teeth ASAP
Step one, completed and I am SO happy. I can eat! I have another appointment on the 9th as a follow-up.

So, this is just a simple post to let you know where I stand in my resolutions. How are you doing?

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Crazy Week to Be Perfect

This blog is just a free following piece about my day and feelings. I am sure it will be riddled with a ton of grammar mistakes, but that is my natural state of being. I am completely imperfect.

I wanted to write more this week. I made it part of my resolution to get out of my comfort zone and write. I love writing, but I hate the judgment that comes from a misplaced common or an incomplete sentence.

I don’t like to be judged.

I live a quiet life for this reason. I know it so much easier to say, “Oh, don’t listen to people!” For the most part, I don’t listen to people. I just get tripped up because I am also a perfectionist. I am the type of perfectionist that will stop what they are doing if they can’t do it right. My anxiety can be a jerk sometimes…see I even judge myself.

So, as I have mentioned, I have gotten better with working through my judgment riddled mind. I have gotten to the point that I can push through most nay-sayers, but sometimes one will pop up that stops me dead in my tracks.

This happened to be the week that I got obstructed. I didn’t have an opportunity to write, much less recollect. I am still growing my business, and my daughter was with me this week. She was very sick. Her dad was also ill so he couldn’t get her to bring her to school.

We decided to move forward with homeschool. She had the worse teacher and rather than waste our money of a teacher who doesn’t care for her students. She didn’t this option is the best for her and us.

This notion of teaching her terrifies me. What if I teach her the wrong things? What if I hold her back? What if I am not smart enough to teach a fourth grader?

It scary and my mind wants to freeze up. It’s been doing it all week. I won’t let it. We have too much going on for me to check out. So, for the sake of my sanity at this moment in time, I am sitting in front of my computer and just purging a bunch of thoughts and words, in no particular order or reason.

I guess I need to be accountable. These are the times that I have to see myself in the third person. I get frightened to reveal how my mind has gotten used to seeing me.

However, I am excited about homeschooling. It does give me more time if my daughter and I am not alone in this adventure. We have her dad, a homeschool program and a activities group. I have planned out of workflow so that she won’t miss a beat.

I am also concerned about work. I can run my own business. Where do I go from there? I would love to own a doggy daycare. I am eyeing that prize, but financially, it isn’t possible just yet. I rely on my other dog services. I am worried that I won’t make enough money. My e-commerce shop isn’t picking up much traffic. I am not sure if I should close it or work on it a little more. Ideally, it would be nice to have Tamemepet.com as my primary source of income, but I guess that is another topic that I have to figure out.

So, this week has been a little crazy.

Next week will be a whole new chapter.

I have to walk through the door eventually.

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I don’t want to deal

This blog is just a free following piece about my day and feelings. I am sure it will be riddled with a ton of grammar mistakes, but that is my natural state of being. I am completely imperfect.

It’s a cold day in Brooklyn. I do not want to go outdoors but I must as my job is to be there. Most of the time I do not mind it, but today, it just seems unmeasurable in torture.

My daughter is sick, and I feel I should be here for her. I don’t see her enough and here I go, leaving her when she needs me. I worry that my actions will mess her up somehow, but I try not to think of it. I have to work. I have to provide support to her and my family.

I always worry that I am never good enough. I am also self-absorbed and stuck in my head. I keep wondering of what could be instead of what is now. I try to think of ways to be more present, but sometimes I fail. I am just not ready to deal.

It is cold out today, and I don’t want to deal. I would rather be indoors and help my child heal.

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Raspberry Coconut Macaroons

These raspberry coconut macaroons are something I make to remind me of a warmer sunny day. It is a cold day in Brooklyn, and I rather be indoors. Sometimes, my anxiety can be raised if I sit too long, so to keep myself occupied, I love to try recipes from the ingredients that I already have in my home.

I am pretty sure you can add any berry or no berries to the cookie. You can also but vegan ingredients if you aren’t into dairy products. Either way, when you take a bite, hopefully, it will give you that warm and cozy vibe of a summertime night.

Wet Ingredients:
4 large egg whites
1/2 cup raspberries
1/2 teaspoon almond extract
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Dry Ingredients
4 and 3/4 cups sweetened shredded coconut
1/2 cup granulated sugar

Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 325°F
  2. Prepare by lining two baking sheets with parchment paper.
  3. Do not put your dough in until the oven is at 325°F
  4. For about 2 minutes, in a large bowl using a mixer with paddle accessory, whipped the sugar, egg whites, and vanilla together egg whites, sugar, and vanilla together on medium to high speed until frothy and the sugar dissolved.
  5. Then add in the shredded coconut gradually, making sure the coconut is evenly moistened.
  6. The batter will be moist and gluey.
  7. Cover the mixture tightly with plastic wrap or wax paper and refrigerator for 30 minutes. This will allow the coconut to become moist.
  8. Meanwhile, pat your raspberries dry with a paper towel or cloth. You don’t want them too wet.
  9. Once the 30 minutes are over, unwrap the dough and fold in the raspberries into the coconut batter.
  10. Scoop 2 Tablespoons of the batter and place in on the prepared baking sheet it should be about 2 inches apart. Make sure the mounds are very dense but round.
  11. Bake for about 20 minutes until the cookie is lightly golden brown.
  12. Allow the cookies to cool thoroughly on the baking sheets before eating.

I hope you enjoy this recipe as much as I do and stay warm (or cool in you are in the summer season) today.

You are pretty awesome for reading this, so thank you!

Let me know if you have any recommendations for recipes or questions below.

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How to Make Co-Parenting Work

Co-parenting between the separated parents means that both have to share the responsibilities of children’s upbringing. Parents, who decide to do this, must cooperate to make it work. Following the co-parenting plan can be a
good start. However, saying it is easier than doing it. Problems will always rise especially in the case where parents haven’t resolved their internal conflicts.

The most common problem arising is that children keep seeing the ongoing battle between parents after the separation process. It’s unfortunate for the children because it will harm them psychologically. If you experience this problem, use a holistic co-parenting – which consider the arrangement of the co-parenting and the emotional aspect of all parties involved – to solve it. Here are the steps to do it:

Lose your fear
The reason why you keep fighting with your ex is that you still hold pain, as the result of the separation, within you. The pain derives from fear or trauma.

Can you see it now?

So fear or trauma is your conflict’s source. Now that you’ve found it, you have to lose it.

Here are the simple steps to do it:

  • Let all your fear out by writing them down.
  • Deal all your fear one by one.

For example, you’re afraid that you can’t handle the car’s matter which your ex usually did it for you. To lose your fear, go to the mechanic and learn how to deal with it. Once you manage to do it, you’ll gain confidence and fear no more.

Remember past fear and how you’d overcome i

This path down memory lane will make you think, “Hey! I’d overcome my fear. So I’ll be able to deal with this separation too.” This thought will strengthen you.

Cry out loud

Crying will help you in the process of losing fear. After that, you’ll feel relieved and see clearly. Thus, you’ll build positive communication with your ex who will likely give positive feedback for it. Once you do this, you have started a healthy co-parenting.

Ask your friends and family’s support

The process of letting out fear and afterward will take times. You’ll go through the ups and downs of the process. During the time, it’s better to ask for support/help from your friends and family.

As an outsider, they’ll be able to see your problem rationally. Therefore, at times you feel down, they can make you better and help you back to the track where you need to be to do healthy co-parenting.

However, if you think that your friends or family can’t help you due to whatever reasons, get the experts’ help.

Discuss the co-parenting in detail and make the win-win solutions agreement. Conflicts can also happen because of other aspects of co-parenting which are the kind of parenting style which you and your ex use in raising children and the financial matter. Therefore it’s important to discuss both in details.

During the discussion, let out all your thoughts of how you want the arrangement to be. Let your ex do the same. If both of you have differences, find the win-win solutions. So no one will be dissatisfied. Therefore no conflicts arise in the future.

Then make the agreement proved by the court. It’s an important step to do in a holistic co-parenting. This way you, your ex and most importantly your child will get all the deserved rights legally. In the case of unwanted events happen, the law will protect you.

Get me time

The next process you need to go through is that you must get your own me time. Spare time to do enjoying activities such as doing your hobbies, hanging out with your friends, meeting new people, traveling, etc. Do it while your child is with your ex.

Doing fun activities will refresh and relax you. You’ll get positive energy which will make you happy. Suggest your ex to do the same while your child is with you. That way, your ex will be happy too. The act of supporting your ex in term related to co-parenting is necessary also.

Because if your ex is in a healthy emotional state as you do, both of you can make your child happy as well. And this is the core of a holistic co-parenting.

Evaluate the co-parenting you’ve done

If conflicts still happen after all the efforts you’ve done. It’s time to evaluate the co-parenting arrangement. Asking the experts’ help is one thing you and your ex can do. They can give an objective evaluation, help both of you to figure out what’s wrong, and give alternative suggestions. After this evaluation, both of you may have to make a new decision about the co-parenting and repeat the above steps.

If conflicts still happen after all the efforts you’ve done. It’s time to evaluate the co-parenting arrangement. Asking the experts’ help is one thing you and your ex can do. They can give an objective evaluation, help both of you to figure out what’s wrong, and give alternative suggestions. After this evaluation, both of you may have to make a new decision about the co-parenting and repeat the above steps.

It seems tedious to do so but parenting – co-parenting or not – is a life’s time work. Just keep in mind that it’s for your beloved child. That way you’ll feel the hard work of co-parenting is worth to do.

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