I have too much pride.
I know this is my downfall. I keep everything bottled up and feel as though I can handle it myself. I wish I can say I am humbled, but most of the time, my pride gets in the way.
Pride can creep into our lives. It is a silent destroyer because it feels useful to accomplished a task. However, I need more of it. I have to prove to myself that I am helpful in the world and independent of others. My self-esteem never seems to get any better, but worse. I just can’t come to grips of letting pride go although I have gotten better.
I am not saying pride ins evil. It small quantities can be useful for us. It shows us the things we are doing right. It opens us to be humble of our accomplishment. It is a healthy emotion. What I am talking about it pride being used to protect yourself from dealing with what is not going right in your life.
I could give you a list of the obvious ways that pride can take hold, like being critical of others and caring too much for your appearance, but there are subtle ways pride can show its ugly head. Here are some ways to know if your pride may be unhealthy
1– Unable to accept helpful critiques
People who can’t take constructive criticism, tend to be blinded by their pride. They do not understand the benefit in what someone is advising them. Taking down the wall of pride may show that the advice may help shape them to be a better person.
2– Not being able to ask for help
It is terrific wanting to be independent. Unfortunately, it’s part of our culture to get an accomplishment without help. However, there are times we have to accept that some things are exceeding our ability. If you know you are in dire need of help but can’t make yourself ask for it, you might be dealing with too much pride.
3– Disregarding the advice
This behavior plays with number one. Its source is assuming you have all the solutions. You don’t require or perceive the worth of other viewpoints. If you believe you can be prosperous and succeed in your intentions without the help of others, you may have too much pride.
4 – Talking about Yourself
It’s OK to tell people about your life, as long as you are listening to them and not over-talking or waiting for your turn to express how much better you are compared to them indirectly or directly. If you hear yourself talk about your achievements, your illnesses, your background, degree, or financial status, these are all signs of too much pride.
Pride can sneak into your life in different complex ways. Our culture can sometimes treat humility as a weakness. Humility is a beautiful gift that allows us to be open to people and the world. If you find yourself in one of these thought processes, try to think about it differently and put yourself in someone else’s shoes. You might see that you have more to offer the world and will hopefully help boost your self-esteem and confidence.
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